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On Take This Falkor as a Symbol of My Neverending... You Get It

@GrecoFranco try this: http://www.blackmothstudio.com/botanica/

Posted on June 21, 2012 at 12:25 pm 0

On Anne-Marie Slaughter on Family and Career, and Actually Having Both

@julia Gotcha, sorry to come off as critical! My comment is just what I wanted to yell at the author. When she says that these things "aren't issues" for non-privileged, educated women like herself, I was thinking, 'they ARE issues, just not in the way that you construct your thesis!!!! GAAH.'

Posted on June 21, 2012 at 11:41 am 2

On Anne-Marie Slaughter on Family and Career, and Actually Having Both

@rougemarie Also, work-life balance IS a feminist issue.

I'm more inclined to blame the Atlantic than the author though. This is just another in a line of lady articles that infuriatingly refuses to acknowledge the evolution of feminism past the first wave, or really any breadth of feminist definition and experience.

Posted on June 21, 2012 at 11:38 am 4

On Anne-Marie Slaughter on Family and Career, and Actually Having Both

Is anyone else bristling at how this article positioned "feminist lies" against "work-life balance realities"? No? Just me?

Posted on June 21, 2012 at 11:06 am 9

On Anne-Marie Slaughter on Family and Career, and Actually Having Both

@julia I'm sorry, I might have misinterpreted your comment. I just...really hated this article.

Posted on June 21, 2012 at 11:01 am 2

On Anne-Marie Slaughter on Family and Career, and Actually Having Both

@julia Wait wait, this is SO a dilemma for less privileged women (people?) If anything, a lack of work-life balance is more detrimental for women working low(er)-wage jobs, because those are the jobs that are the least likely to provide paid sick days, vacation days, and to have flexible working schedules. So, what are these women supposed to do when their kid gets sick? They can't necessarily take off mid-day. Even if they have sick time, it might not be family sick time that can be used for their child's sick days. They wouldn't be able to work 10-6 and in order to take their kids to school...ETC! AND to cap it off, they likely can't afford day care, nannies, or even subsidized child care because it's the most fucking expensive thing of all time. Think of it as an issue of contrained choice, that keeps them in low wage work, and out of professional development and higher education opportunities -- they simply can't afford it. If anyone truly needs comprehensive, family-oriented, flexible work-life policies it's lower-wage workers.

Posted on June 21, 2012 at 10:59 am 7

On Second Favorites, Gold Stars, and Sex Not Had

@redheaded&crazie SO I am all-pro separating the two. I had a best guy friend who I loved and was awesome, and I had my boyfriend who I loved and was awesome. And then boyfriend and I broke up and best friend and I had feelings for each other. presto change-o, best friend ----> boyfriend.

we both have other super close friends though. you CAN have it all. etc.

Posted on June 18, 2012 at 1:01 pm 0

On Braids for Days

@andhow According to that website, all hairstyles all the time are for white girls.

Posted on June 13, 2012 at 4:15 pm 0

On Braids for Days

@che AAH is this the place where I can ask about short curly hairstyles? I'm planning on chopping all of mine off and have been worrying and obsessing like whoa. It's just so thick and course and wavy in most places (but not all!) and tell me more about your 80's boy hair please.

Posted on June 13, 2012 at 3:59 pm 0

On Girls I Have Loved for One Moment

@Passion Fruit I'm with you; this was a little hurty for me as well. Everyone here is nice with their "oh hey you guys, brown eyes are pretty too," but this piece took me to the feeling of gazing at my beautiful, white, desirable friends and feeling terrible because no one ever looked at me that way. Not that this is about me/us and not that she should have invented girls of color to love for a moment... but this brought me back to that visceral longing of otherness.

Posted on May 10, 2012 at 11:28 am 2