@GrecoFranco try this: http://www.blackmothstudio.com/botanica/
@julia Gotcha, sorry to come off as critical! My comment is just what I wanted to yell at the author. When she says that these things "aren't issues" for non-privileged, educated women like herself, I was thinking, 'they ARE issues, just not in the way that you construct your thesis!!!! GAAH.'
@rougemarie Also, work-life balance IS a feminist issue.
I'm more inclined to blame the Atlantic than the author though. This is just another in a line of lady articles that infuriatingly refuses to acknowledge the evolution of feminism past the first wave, or really any breadth of feminist definition and experience.
Is anyone else bristling at how this article positioned "feminist lies" against "work-life balance realities"? No? Just me?
@julia I'm sorry, I might have misinterpreted your comment. I just...really hated this article.
@julia Wait wait, this is SO a dilemma for less privileged women (people?) If anything, a lack of work-life balance is more detrimental for women working low(er)-wage jobs, because those are the jobs that are the least likely to provide paid sick days, vacation days, and to have flexible working schedules. So, what are these women supposed to do when their kid gets sick? They can't necessarily take off mid-day. Even if they have sick time, it might not be family sick time that can be used for their child's sick days. They wouldn't be able to work 10-6 and in order to take their kids to school...ETC! AND to cap it off, they likely can't afford day care, nannies, or even subsidized child care because it's the most fucking expensive thing of all time. Think of it as an issue of contrained choice, that keeps them in low wage work, and out of professional development and higher education opportunities -- they simply can't afford it. If anyone truly needs comprehensive, family-oriented, flexible work-life policies it's lower-wage workers.
@redheaded&crazie SO I am all-pro separating the two. I had a best guy friend who I loved and was awesome, and I had my boyfriend who I loved and was awesome. And then boyfriend and I broke up and best friend and I had feelings for each other. presto change-o, best friend ----> boyfriend.
we both have other super close friends though. you CAN have it all. etc.
@andhow According to that website, all hairstyles all the time are for white girls.
@che AAH is this the place where I can ask about short curly hairstyles? I'm planning on chopping all of mine off and have been worrying and obsessing like whoa. It's just so thick and course and wavy in most places (but not all!) and tell me more about your 80's boy hair please.
@Passion Fruit I'm with you; this was a little hurty for me as well. Everyone here is nice with their "oh hey you guys, brown eyes are pretty too," but this piece took me to the feeling of gazing at my beautiful, white, desirable friends and feeling terrible because no one ever looked at me that way. Not that this is about me/us and not that she should have invented girls of color to love for a moment... but this brought me back to that visceral longing of otherness.