@cherrispryte Seconded. It seems like it is, though?
@martinipie I was always finding unexpected bits of literature funny, which was unfortunate, because that meant I had to explain the dirty parts of Shakespeare to the class in AP English. Don't smirk when you get the dirty jokes, kids.
I couldn't read Pride and Prejudice the first time I tried, but after Sense and Sensibility and was in Austen-love and needed more. My neighbor loaned me a lovely green, cloth-bound copy of P&P which I promptly read, re-read, got slightly damp, kept, took to college, mooned over, felt guilt over, and eventually owned for real when she said I could keep it because I clearly loved it so much.
@Theda Baranowski Emma is allowed to make people irrationally furious. That is part of her point.
So, LW1, I have the same problem! But, I have been living with it, because I love my boyfriend, and want to marry him, and despite the fact that I REALLY miss making out, I have started to work out some of the reasons that kissing is less important for him. He was recently, finally, diagnosed with some high-functioning autism-spectrum disorder, which was not much of a surprise. He struggles with my need to have frequent physical affection, and sometimes he can't handle the "grosser" aspects of intimacy. It's ok! He loves me! He's getting better at meeting my needs, and I am trying to get better at not freaking out. He's getting better at understanding how hard it can be for me to not get the physicality I need sometimes, and I'm getting better at seeing when he just can't do it. Not that this is your case - because generally, yeah, I would say that it IS a bad sign - but I seem to have a case when it isn't.
@heyhaley Yeah, I might have had to fan myself at my desk in response to that.
@wee_ramekin EXACTLY. A good top should respect and know that she is straight and not ok with threesomes with women, and work within those hard limits, and still be able to top just fine. It is exactly the fact that you can trust your top to do things that are good for you that makes being a submissive worthwhile. This guy is the best example of the worst dom - someone who is doing it out of selfishness and malice, to get what he wants without any concern for his partner. Ick. I think this lovely woman could find a man who is willing to dominate within her limits and actually care about her as well. This guy needs to go.
ALSO Benedict Cumberbatch OMG.
It is indicative of my intense Cumberbatch crushing that I kind of actually really want to smell that. Wear that. Watch whatever happens around that. Sorry, am I on Tumblr? Fangirling.
This was sweet, and insightful, and much appreciated. My boyfriend, who I feel is not so sweet and introspective, was recently diagnosed with very high-functioning autism (or something on the spectrum) and it explains a lot, and also made me feel a certain amount of sympathy for him and how he grew up, especially without any treatment for it. We have been doing well, and knowing helps. I think this young man will also do well, and I wish him the best!
@Diana Thank goodness someone else is with me here! So what if they're a little too perfect! That book was balm to my soul when I read it, continuously, as a teenager. I love L'Engle and always will.