@I'm Right on Top of that, Rose This reminds me of an OKC profile I read lately. This girl was like "I like to have very intellectual and philosophical conversations" which, fine. But she also just generally came off as rather...snooty and condescending?
Her favorite book, though? *Withering* Heights.
People are funny.
@I'm Right on Top of that, Rose Haha of course! I would've felt very silly if I'd been all WRITING! WRITING! WRITING IS WHAT TURNS ME ON and then included "alot" in my username without it referring to the Alots!
@yeah-elle Gosh what is it about 23? I'm 23 also and have just recently realized (or not "realized" but maybe "admitted"? "come to terms with"?) that I'm bisexual. I guess I first "realized" it about 2 years ago, when I developed this overwhelming crush on this stunningly beautiful and phenomenally talented girl in a creative non-fiction class. Like, I wrote poems about her. But I thought maybe it was just a...writer crush? I don't know, I didn't set much in store by it, probably because I'd had some not-so-nice quasi-sexual experiences with girls before. Like, I had this friend in high school (a girl) who used to grab me and kiss me without my permission (she thought it was funny when I was grossed out by it? Because I suppose I was very sheltered/innocent in high school? I don't know. Non-con kissing from girls you're not attracted to, so they can laugh at your expense? Is exactly as uncool as it sounds.) There was another girl who in my freshman year of college would sneak into my room while I was napping and snuggle and grope me. Which was also squicky. I was laying on the couch in the lounge and she straddled me and unhooked my bra to give me a massage which - what? Why?
But then in junior year of college there was writer girl! And, more recently, I met another girl - also a writer, we both write about mermaids and fairytale retellings! And she is beautiful and makes her own clothes and we danced to Billie Jean and I *swear* there were eyes being made. But she has a girlfriend and lives far away, alas.
But anyway I changed my OKC profile to say bisexual and, because I am an overachiever, the first sentences proclaims that I am only interested in dating girl as the moment. And a girl I messaged messaged me back right this instant! Hurrah!
I haven't come out to my parents yet, though. My brother knows, because he is awesome - we actually met up for lunch a few weeks ago and were talking about dating and its many complexities, he just kind of blurted "Have you ever dated a girl? Or wanted to?" which was surprising in a (Arthur Shappey playing Charade's voice) HOW DID YOU KNOW sort of way. I'm a little scared to tell my parents, too, and like several people mentioned upthread, I probably won't unless/until I'm actually seriously dating a girl.
Most of my friends know and were completely not surprised. One of my friends, who is also bisexual, was really...skeptical? Kind of to the point of saying, "oh, sweetie, you're not *really* bi." Which was hurtful and irritating. I...decided not to waste time trying to convince her. And she believes me now. I guess I've established some sort of street cred somehow? I don't know. I've benefitted so much for SO MUCH of my life from straight privilege, that it was unsettling to experience that from someone. And I totally get what ya'll were saying about not wanting to co-opt the identity - because I do pass as straight and defintely have not experienced prejudice because of my sexuality aside from that one thing.
Ugh. My supervisor, after driving me nuts by throwing me into a clinic I haven't done/been trained for since LAST SEPTEMBER, send me an email at the end of the day that said "YOU DID IT! I AM SO PROUD OF YOU! :) :) :)"
...I'd nearly had a panic attack at my desk that day. I almost put my fist through the computer screen when I saw that email. Don't treat me like I'm in kindergarten, TRAIN ME PROPERLY before you throw me through the ringer.
@curlysue Agreed! When I was 18 I wanted a pink unicorn. I'm glad it was vetoed. Granted, at 20 I got a blue footed boobie on my ribs, which may or may not be sillier than a unicorn, ymmv, but I'm pretty silly and I love my boobie. Then I got 2 birds of paradise on my 21st birthday, and they're beautiful, and I love them. I'm, uh, 23.
YAY TATTOOS EVERYONE GET TATTOOS (if that's your thing!) but YES think about them THIIIISS BIIIG and also spend at least a year (my rule, anyway) pondering the what and the where.
@lobsterhug Funny story - my dad LOVES Diana Gabaldon. Like, at dinner one night, he started monologuing about who he would cast if he got to cast the movie. He threw one of the books at me a few months ago and was like READ THIS and I opened it right up to a sex scene and was mildly scandalized.
I'll read it one day but um. Still a little scandalized that my dad enjoys reading about sexytimes. He CLAIMS that he's in it for the biology afficionado solidarity (Gabaldon was a biologist before she was an author? I think?) and the historical fiction BUT I KNOW HE'S IN IT FOR THE SEXYTIMES.
@rayray I most certainly shall! Friday Open Thread, you got it.
I! Have a hundred! Pages! Of Villette to go! And it is so good and I am so excited and at first I was like Lucy Snowe why you such a snob but now I am like LUCY SNOWE PLEASE BE MY SPIRIT GUIDE. And oh my GOD John Graham, Lucy > Ginevra and I mean I like Paulina but Lucy > Paulina too.
ALSO - what are other people's thoughts of M. Paul? Because I dunno. He's so weirrrddd and if I met a dude like him IRL I'd be like DUDE STOP YELLING AT ME AND STOP SPYING ON ME JUST KNOCK IT OFF OKAY.
AHHH! THIS IS PROBABLY MY FAVORITE HAIRPIN POST TO DATE!
My dad got into this habit of buying me a new perfume each time my heart got broken (aww) so here are mine:
Gucci Flora Smells like flowers, obviously. Light and springy? (This sounds like I'm talking about wands not perfume but oh well! Ollivander's Perfume at your service!) Heartbreak: 12 hours crying in bed. 2 weeks actually being sad. Then - so so over it.
Armani - Acqua di Gioia Summer all the way. Sharper, more noticeable. Makes me think of beaches? Heartbreak: My best friend mutilated my heart by rebounding with me after his gf cheated on him (and I told him what she was up to). 1 year of heartbreak. Over it now, still occasionally suffering the pangs bc we no longer talk/clearly we are no longer best friends/even though we live 1 block away from each other and I bumped into his sister the other day. Waiting for summer before wearing this perfume again.
Dolce and Gabana Rose the One First grown-ass-lady perfume I bought for myself! No heartbreak necessary, just being confident and awesome. Scent is very subtle, and you need a couple of spritzes to really get it to stick (I'm the type of person who likes to smell my perfume all damn day, so I have to basically mist myself up all over with this one) but it's fresh and lovely. Seems a little wintry to me, but that's because I bought it in February I think. Could also be an autumn perfume, maybe? (Why do I categorize my perfumes by season?) And the box is metallic pink! Love love love this perfume.
Chanel Allure Dad bought this for me for Valentine's day, because I mentioned it as the runner up to Rose the One. No heartbreak attached to this either. Such a good winter perfume, kind of musky (not in a gross way?) and smoky and spicy. Gonna have to stop wearing it soon once it gets warmer out, but the best thing about this perfume is that you spritz on a little (once on your neck, once on one wrist then rub 'em together) and you will smell like a sex kitten all damn day.
LOVE THIS POST SO MUCHHHHH.
I was having a rough day, and then a patient brought in boobie cupcakes. With aureolas made of fondant and nipples made of gumdrops and everything. And they're strawberry flavored. And it made all the other patients laugh. And now my day is so much better.
(I work in a breast cancer clinic.)
HAPPY FRIDAY EVERYBODY!!!