i used to be very very anti hug for a long time until i realized no matter the weather i was cold all the time
I think human brains are totally fascinating. It's so much more interesting and oddly-comforting to attribute to ghosts what can be explained away by as-yet-unknown environmental factors, shifting and sudden winds, natural gases seeping out of the ground, pipes fluctuating miles away, and our totally unreliable pal, the human memory.
I AM tons of fun at parties, thanks for wondering!
By Josh is like Germany Ambitious and Misunderstood on I Don't Believe in Ghosts (So How Did the Empty Dog Kennel Break Down Our Door?)
one of the people my mom is giving her puppies to is a medium and my mom keeps insisting shes legit bc 'she has a facebook'
I have no idea how to respond except with petulance and despair. Wait, yes I do.
"Congratulations, how wonderful."
@olivebee I think this can be tricky because on the one hand, good manners! Social graces! People should have them and they are nice. But things like dressing up for the theatre can be challenging when you look at issues like class, like, can someone afford to dress up for the theatre? Did they grow up having access to theatre and knowing that that is the Thing to Do? I grew up squarely middle class, and my dad works in theatre journalism, so I went to plays and the ballet and even the opera pretty frequently when I was growing up, and knowing the protocol was second nature. When I was in university I had a friend who grew up working class in a small down five+ hours from our mid-size city, and even though she always had about the same amount of money as the rest of us broke-ish arts students, which is to say enough for a bottle of wine on the weekends but nothing fancy, I remember her saying that that was definitely something she had to learn when she moved here and started university. She wasn't embarrassed about it (nor should she have been), but I think sometimes people who appear to be breaking from more traditional etiquette do so because either they didn't grow up with ready access to it or because it felt restrictive in some way (expecting a butch lady to wear a skirt or to find nice men's dress clothes that fit her body well for example).
I don't know if that's what's happening with your coworkers. Presumably if you can afford theatre tickets and nice clothes, most of them can too. And I agree with you absolutely that it is valuable to have good manners, and to be respectful in matters of etiquette, but I think there's also a difference between manners that are considerate of people's feelings and etiquette that is based on behavioural ideals that are heavily informed by class.
By terrific on Friday Open Thread
I wanted this post to be nothing but a gif, but then I worked myself into a panic about accidentally spoiling people, so I'm just linking to it with the warning that it includes potential New Girl spoilers and LET'S TALK ABOUT THIS RIGHT NOW RIGHT NOW
I had a very dirty dream about Nick Miller this week
ps you suck for deleting my link when I edited stupid comments
*frantically scratching back*
@mynamebackwards I think that is exactly it. For a bow tie to look cool, it has to contrast with the typical, historical representation of who wears a bow tie. Therein lies the dynamic.
@frenz.lo I think a lot of guys (who are not assholes) think they're not appearance-focused because they don't insist that the ladies they like look like mainstream tv beauties. They think they're unique in finding the short girl with glasses and brown hair and slightly crooked teeth to be attractive. The fact that she's an objectively pretty girl who also cultivates her look with attention to detail and style completely passes over their heads. It's baffling but I find it to be true.
Just putting it out there that ladies basically get painted as unfuckable swamp monsters if we should have the temerity to grow pubes or whatever. The idea that it hasn't occurred to this guy that paying attention to his hygiene or style may affect the way women approach him blows my mind. Bllllloooows it.