On Spectrums and Attractiveness

Late to the game to say that the responses (from AQC and all of you!) to LW1 have just warmed my lady-married-to-a-wonderful-man-to-whom-I-am-extremely-attracted-but-also-realizing-I-may-be-attracted-to-(or envious/admiring of? but I think attracted to, if I'm honest with myself)-ladies heart. Even though LW1's question wasn't exactly about this situation, point remains: it's all okay (better than okay!) and awesome. This column lifted a weight I didn't know was there.

Posted on February 17, 2013 at 12:19 pm 0

On Considering Criticism, Impostor Syndrome, and Married-People Ethics

@frigwiggin and @SarcasticFringehead Just joining the impostor party... it really is awful/exhausting. And apparently sadly common. [For the record, I actually just thought: "aw, they're not impostors! I see their comments; they seem like cool people. *I*, on the other hand... faaaakerrrr".] And YES on the "really?" - I do the exact same thing. Something does not compute. Arrrgh.

Posted on November 14, 2012 at 10:12 pm 1

On Friday Bargain Bin: The Gramophone

@Hellcat Heck yes, my husband is the same way with me and shaving, and it's lovely as I just happen to be very shaving-lazy! And with pretty underthings, which I think I enjoy more than he does.

Posted on November 9, 2012 at 3:38 pm 1

On Where Brooklyn At? Where Brooklyn At? Where Brooklyn At?

@Vicky Johnson agreed! As a former-Irvine-but-now-Buffalo resident, I find the fashion here much more interesting (in good way).

Posted on April 26, 2012 at 9:12 pm 0

On On Female Desire, Part Two: Pornography

related question: any suggestions for how to suggest joint watching to Mr.? We are generally good talking about sex but this would be... new, and I suspect he might not be totally comfortable with the idea.

Posted on March 10, 2012 at 2:25 pm 0

On Mini Ask a Lady: The Thank-You Note

I wonder if part of my difficulty in writing thank yous is that I wasn't brought up writing them. Which isn't an excuse at all for someone who is almost 30, but it was never something my parents drilled into my head. They are not terrible people either, just somewhat socially... inexperienced. But other than that, I never feel like the notes are good enough! As in, not adequately conveying my appreciation/gratitude etc... so instead I more often send nothing or wait until waaay later than is ideal and feeling guilty about it all the while. SO BAD.

Posted on January 12, 2012 at 11:17 pm 0

On In the Year 2012

@appletree I also had bad (well, smelly) luck with natural deodorant but this past year started making this (www.crunchybetty.com/all-roads-lead-to-the-pits-homemade-deodorant), and it has worked wonderfully! I've been using it since the fall (maybe summer?) and haven't had any peeling or itching, even after shaving. The only caution would be to make sure you let it dry all the way before putting on your clothes - there is one shirt that seems to have oily stains now but I think I just put it on too soon because it hasn't been a problem with anything else.

Posted on January 2, 2012 at 2:52 pm 0

On Age Differences, Irrational Jealousy, and the Haircut

@Mardia Hill@twitter the 12 year old boy thing! me too! I've got the oh-so-charming rectangle body shape, so yes... short hair plus no makeup is an issue (with me, not my husband). Getting a pixie cut is the reason I first started wearing makeup. However, short hair: still worth it.

Posted on December 17, 2011 at 2:27 am 0

On Do This No. 6: Festive Holiday Boundary-Setting

YEEEES this is extremely useful for my entire life! Holidays aren't such a big deal (thankfully; although this will be the first year with my in-laws since being married--let the kid-questions begin), but 1, 2 and especially 4... yes. Dear self: it's not your job to take care of everyone's feelings!

Posted on December 15, 2011 at 10:58 pm 0

On Love, Bathrooms, and the Older Male Coworker

@SarahDances oooh that reminds me, when we had been together for a few months:
Me: something about how I cared about him so much and he/the relationship was pretty awesome (yes, a little too chicken to say love)
Him (mis-hearing): "I love you too"
HA so... I don't remember, but I don't think I bothered to clarify. All is/was good. Married now etc etc.

Posted on December 2, 2011 at 3:58 pm 8