@contrary ME TOO. His excuse is that he will "eat anything." But why is it that we hardly ever end up making what I first suggest? How did that happen?
EVERY occasion with my husband is like this:
Me: What would you like for your birthday/Christmas/Anniversary?
Him: Whatever you get me is fine.
Me: But what do you want?
Him: You know me, I like anything you pick out.
AAARGH, so annoying.
I just got back from radiation - Thanksgiving is my third anniversary of diagnosis & I've never been in remission. I guess I have about a ten percent chance of reaching 40 years old (I'm 37), and what no one could prepare me for was extended, chronic illness. I'd add this to advice:
Check your pride at the door: You'll be poked and prodded, you'll need lots of help sometimes. NEVER say no to help. Also, your body will sometimes betray you. It's ok.
Try not to be too sad about losing friends, some people just don't care about you enough to deal.
Take treatment advice from your doctors and nurses and treatment-related professionals only - not your friends, your aunt, the internet, whatever. I'm fine with alternative therapies, but only the ones suggested by people directly related to my treatment. for instance, my radiologist just suggested touch therapy, and I'm completely trying it.
Don't go to Cancer Treatment Centers of America. It's a scam.
Have an Advocate. This should be the ballsiest person who you are close with. Sometimes random doctors and nurses need to be yelled at if they are acting like assholes. For instance, a doctor botched my liver biopsy after my BC metastasized, and wouldn't issue me any morphine, which I'd had numerous times. Your advocate should ideally be the executor of your Living Will.
Scarves, not wigs. I've lost my hair twice, and scarves/turbans rule.
And this is just MY personal experience, but social workers are better to talk to than psychologists. I don't know why.
We're all faking that "Strong Cancer Person!" shit.
I had to laugh about the couch thing - my couch is My Own Private Idaho. It's got a shape in the form of me now, kind of like a Sealy only the shape doesn't go away when I get up.
@Craftastrophies I can narrate the inside of my cat's head when I do crafts: whatcha doin? Whatcha doin? Can I help? If I walk here will it help? Can I eat this? Can I lay here, I can lay here right and it's helping? Gee this is fun!
Modge Podge is one of the single greatest things in the Universe.
Ayla, FTW as a well rounded heroine. She kicks ass, has babies, is devoted to her man and tames LIONS. And hunts. The hunting was very big.
@pterodactgirl "World Made by Hand" would be a good read. It not only gets you to start thinking about the nature of work, but helps if you are feeling a little annoyed by city life.
A great YA novel would be Peeps http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Peeps_%28novel%29 . It's sort of pre-Apocalyptic, and about a kid who finds himself thrust into a strange new world a few days after moving to NYC.
@pterodactgirl I DO love Frankenstein, too - I think it would count as crossover?
Byron is pretty awesome, loved him in college. I should give it another try.
Not loving her job writer:
Before the Universe came in and made different plans for me, I had a job situation that was very similar, so I signed up to teach Adult Education courses in a subject I loved and wanted to keep my practice up on.
Unfortunately, as I said I wasn't able to go through with it, but it's worth a thought. You might make a little extra money and you could do something you really wanted, if only for a few hours a week, and help people at the same time.
I sit here wishing I had this particular problem!