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On A Bold Notion for Baby Showers

@pterodactylish If you got your birth last name from your dad, didn't name come from his dad? So how come it belongs to him more than it belongs to you?

I chose not to change my name for geneaological reasons (there are so many dead ends in my ancestry because I don't know my foremothers' birth surnames!) I don't really care if others do change their names (except when dudes say it's a dealbreaker if their wife doesn't take their name, I find that creepy and awful). But I find the "father's name/husband's name" logic really depressing! Because I'm a woman, my name doesn't really belong to me? That's sad.

Posted on February 4, 2014 at 4:52 pm 9

On So Many New Books That We Can Be Like "It's On My List" About in 2014

@Lucienne Me too, having read A Study in Scarlet on 1/3 to see what all this Sherlock Holmes fuss is about.

However, I am actually pretty excited for Chang-Rae Lee's On Such a Full Sea, so I'm glad not to have to wait for 2015 for that!

Posted on January 8, 2014 at 12:38 pm 0

On 18 Brides in a Year

About this: "I understand easily why a man would want a wife; it's harder to for me to grasp why a woman would want to be one."

I got married this year, so I guess I am a wife, insofar as it means "female-identified, legally and socially recognized life partner of another human." That's all I signed up for, that's what it means to me. I wish that was all it meant to the world at large. The only thing I can do is claim that meaning for myself and construct/practice an egalitarian relationship with my husband. Luckily he's on board with that, though it's harder than I thought it would be.

Posted on December 31, 2013 at 11:35 am 4

On 18 Brides in a Year

@DianaPrince You can change it back! Or find some other configuration of names that suits you better. This person did, it seems a little $$ and hassle-y, but then again, it's your name! In terms of cost per use, definitely a good investment. If your husband's name feels like it's becoming your name, great! If not, you don't have to live with somebody else's name just because you're married.

Posted on December 30, 2013 at 5:55 pm 0

On Ann Friedman's Best Things of 2013

2013 certainly wasn't all sunshine and roses for me, but there were some really really good bits!

1. Married a cool dude
1a. Jumped for joy & ran through a circle of high fives while "I Had the Time of My Life" played
2. Visited some cool places (Sweden, Norway, Miami, New Orleans)
3. Lifted weights/exercised with impressive consistency
4. Rediscovered the library, read a ton of books

Posted on December 30, 2013 at 3:05 pm 1

On How to Enjoy the Airport This Holiday Travel Season

Heaven is a longish layover in Vienna right before Christmas: you can take a train from the airport to the high street and do a little shopping, eat a delicious Viennese pastry and sip a hot chocolate.

Hell is a layover of any length, at any time, in Manchester, England, where transfers are a torturous maze of Kafkaesque lines through corridors with scuffed walls leading to a man who-- no joke-- has to check one printed-out list against another printed-out list in order to let you proceed. Also, they advertise having spent £10 Million improving the cleanliness of their toilets, but the toilets are still awful. And they have slot machines which might have been fun if the whole airport wasn't so chaotic and sad and terrible.

Closer to home, BWI Terminal A/B has some surprisingly solid vegetarian food options and I always go in the Brooks Brothers store there to touch the hems of the garments of the 1%. The groovy old terminal at DCA is fun, and one of their other terminals has a California Tortilla. Dulles is beautiful on the outside but just okay inside, I think. ISP is awful, there is nothing good to do and nothing good to eat, woe betide you if your flight out of ISP is delayed. That's it, that's all I know.

Posted on December 23, 2013 at 11:56 am 2

On Are You a Grown Woman? An Informal Survey

I'm an adult and a woman. I have a good-paying job and I just paid off my student loans and I take an absurd amount of interest in doing my taxes and I cook dinner every goddamn night because nobody else will cook it for me, unless my husband bends space and time to get home from work before 8 PM. Oh, I have a husband, too. People still treat me like I'm young sometimes (I have a young face) but those who know me, respect me. I think that's my chief measure of grown-ness.

I grew up with a stay-at-home mom who had (& still has) a lot of anxieties and insecurities, which she shared with me because I was the oldest kid and she didn't have a lot of adult friends. Probably the only good thing about that was that I learned very young, nobody has things figured out to their satisfaction. You will always feel like a bit of a mess and it has nothing to do with grown/not grown, that's just the human condition.

Posted on December 20, 2013 at 3:38 pm 1

On All Lotion Should Be Like This Lotion

Yeah, personal hygiene stuff is way gendered. Dove and Neutrogena are women's products. Irish Spring and Lever 2000 are men's products (I mean really, LEVER 2000). Pantene's for ladies, Head & Shoulders is for dudes (or rather "people," which means dudes).

Related: yogurt for men.

Posted on December 6, 2013 at 11:47 am 1

On A Reasonable Review of One Direction's New Album, Which Is the Best Album Ever

@Nate Jones@twitter I always thought Harry Styles looked a little like young Mick Jagger, if young Mick Jagger hadn't grown up on post-WWII rations.

Posted on November 26, 2013 at 4:13 pm 0

On When I Die, Bury Me With Several Carefully Embalmed Grilled Cheese Sandwiches

A varied and bountiful cheese board, with fig jam and little pickles and an assortment of Carr's crackers. And a slice of really dark, dense, fudgy chocolate cake with a little dollop of whipped cream on top.

Posted on November 20, 2013 at 11:51 am 1