On What I've Learned From Three Years Without Shampoo

HOW? How does it not smell like vinegar? I am blonde and greasy and I only made it about a week doing this because the constant smell of vinegar was unbearable - it's so awful smelling and my hair looked horrible and darker than usual. Is it just that the water pressure in NYC isn't sufficient to really rinse out the vinegar?

I've read some dicey thing about using such a harsh acid/base combo on your hair can actually ruin it: http://www.futurederm.com/2012/06/20/3-reasons-why-baking-soda-and-apple-cider-vinegar-destroy-your-hair-and-what-to-use-instead/

Posted on January 22, 2014 at 3:02 pm 3

On A Particular Kind of Self-Care: To a Year of Female Friendships

2013: the year all my close female friendships fell apart. One of my best friends became intensely self centered and announced she was a republican out of nowhere. Another thanked me for my kindness after her father's death and then stopped speaking to me or answering my emails.

Not all of them will be permanent, but they will inflict differing levels of pain. I feel like I'm walking wounded a bit, but 2014 will definitely be the year of trying to make new girlfriends...

Posted on December 31, 2013 at 1:43 pm 1

On You're One in Eight Million

@SarahP I feel like there is an oversharing gene, and I have it. My mom will tell a dressing room attendant about her hysterectomy at the drop of a hat so I really have to reel it in so I don't become that.

Posted on June 28, 2013 at 1:25 pm 1

On Relation Ships

Sir, I like the cut of your jib.

Posted on June 28, 2013 at 1:23 pm 10

On You're One in Eight Million

This is resonating w/ me SO HARD because I'm at this weird transitional time in regard to friends--I've sort of shed some friendships that were shitty (getting married meant not having to go out for the sake of going out and I found myself not really as close with some people who are very self centered), and starting nursing school brought this new group of people into my life. I was hoping I'd find one or two other women who I'd bond with, and we'd have each others back and help each other get through this incredibly intense huge life experience...and that hasn't been the case. 60% of the people in my class seem perfectly nice (I don't know if I'd be friends with them outside of school), there are 5 people I would classify as "sketchy as fuck" (yeah, don't take my notes and put your name on them and turn them in), and the rest seem reclusive - but most attempted relationships seem to be of a "I want something from you" nature, and not in a reciprocal "I scratch your back and you scratch mine" way. I think people have sensed that I'm hard working and really try to take advantage of me, so I've sort of isolated myself a bit to stave off some of the leeches. And since I'm a little older than the other students, I do feel like I get some age discrimination - don't rule out us older ladies! We may not be at the same place in life but we can still be fun and since we're older we're more comfortable in hanging loose with our geeky tendencies.

I remember when I first moved to NYC (many, many years ago) my mom told me it was the sort of place you could be surrounded by thousands of people and feel incredibly alone. It's absolute truth. Hang in there and be patient.

Posted on June 28, 2013 at 1:22 pm 1

On Friday Open Thread

@martinipie Mine is based on a vagina shape.

J/K!!! I'll never tell!

Posted on May 31, 2013 at 4:27 pm 3

On Friday Open Thread

HI!!!!!! I've been sucked into the nursing school vortex and haven't been able to look at the hairpin for the last week and a half and I MISS YOU LADIES!

Until I can return, I'll just leave this to remember me by:


Posted on May 31, 2013 at 4:20 pm 20

On Happy 15% Off Seamless Day

I wish I had know this so I could have ordered 15% more food for lunch today!

Posted on May 21, 2013 at 3:34 pm 1

On Who Bird-Corrects the Bird-Correcters?

@fondue with cheddar Sorry, I was just joshin'. The New York State question is probably, "Who the fuck wants to know?!? (shakes fist, looks menacing)

Posted on May 21, 2013 at 3:09 pm 10

On Who Bird-Corrects the Bird-Correcters?

@ghechr What's the Jersey state question, "Who farted?"

Posted on May 21, 2013 at 2:56 pm 4