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On Sex Phases, Red Flags, and "I Just Don't Think You'd Be a Good Parent"

@I'm Right on Top of that, Rose I hate those people. Just because you don't have children, you don't know what a decent human being is? I mean... that's what raising a child is right? Trying to raise a decent human being?

Posted on March 8, 2013 at 1:04 pm 1

On Sex Phases, Red Flags, and "I Just Don't Think You'd Be a Good Parent"

I love this "Listen to your friends." I need to do that more often. They love me! They know me best! They always have my best interest at heart! I would really be better off if I would listen to them.

Posted on March 8, 2013 at 1:00 pm 1

On Sex Phases, Red Flags, and "I Just Don't Think You'd Be a Good Parent"

Maybe because it is a really public way of declaring your love to your family and friends? One that says, "We are willing to risk all the legal messiness and facebook status changes because we love each other."

What do I know though? I do want to get married, that's about all I know.

Posted on March 8, 2013 at 12:58 pm 6

On Sex Phases, Red Flags, and "I Just Don't Think You'd Be a Good Parent"

So, here's a question regarding marriage and time frames. When SHOULD you start asking (demanding?) a time frame for marriage if you are ready. I don't want to be all "when are you going to marry me, tell me tell me tell!" but I would like an idea of when (if?) it will happen. I know I want it to happen and when but I don't want to waste my time if it's not going to happen (if there is one thing I've learned in all of my relationships: time marches on; "in love or not").

Side note: asking this is sending me into a bit of shame spiral... like Cosmo has conditioned to me be worried. But I am scared!

Posted on March 8, 2013 at 12:56 pm 0

On The First Holiday Negotiating In-Law (or Almost-In-Law) Needs and Wants

@Summer Somewhere How do you navigate the not being "allowed"? I was also not allowed (see above thread) and it was too much for me to handle. Sometimes I think I was a baby about the situation and should have just "sucked" it up.

Posted on November 20, 2012 at 4:13 pm 0

On The First Holiday Negotiating In-Law (or Almost-In-Law) Needs and Wants

@iceberg something about his Grandmother not being comfortable with me? And his mom not being comfortable with me there? It's very... odd. To say the least.

Posted on November 20, 2012 at 12:34 pm 0

On The First Holiday Negotiating In-Law (or Almost-In-Law) Needs and Wants

@The Lady of Shalott See also: you not enjoying holidays because it becomes too stressful and you get resentful that you have to spend your vacation time navigating family crazy.

Posted on November 20, 2012 at 12:32 pm 4

On The First Holiday Negotiating In-Law (or Almost-In-Law) Needs and Wants

My boyfriend (well, ex-boyfriend even though we still spend a lot of time together) comes over to my house.

However, his grandmother moved in with his mother about a year and half ago and I haven't been allowed over since. Not that I ever really was but it is a strong 'no' (as opposed to a pensive 'okay'... before).

So, that's weird and contributes to why he is my ex... because I don't think that's normal (at least in my world). So we get married and I still am not allowed over? I mean, a 2 1/2 year relationship is pretty serious in my mind.

Blergh. Holidays.

Posted on November 20, 2012 at 12:27 pm 0

On Considering Criticism, Impostor Syndrome, and Married-People Ethics

A little late to the party but...The problem with crazy relationships that make you feel generally icky is that you become crazy!
Somebody who thinks and analyzes and obsesses about said crazy relationship to the point where you become somebody that you aren't and wouldn't want to hang out with.

Good relationships (the kind that don't make you question yourself) don't make you feel that way. And you don't need to spend time worrying or analyzing about them. I read in another Hairpin article, and I fully believe in my "old age", that it is the relationship you don’t think about and talk about to death that is the relationship that is actually good for you!

Posted on November 15, 2012 at 12:25 pm 1

On Can We Still Be Friends?

@whateverlolawants UGH. It IS "bullshit"... He wants nothing more than to be friends (I have asked)... no dating seriously. I can not handle that. You and Jim are better people than me because I am not capable of just picking pumpkins.

Posted on October 24, 2012 at 5:21 pm 0