On Beauty Q&A: ID Photos, Gaudy Shoes, and Looking 10 Years Younger
Also confidential to LW1: yes, switching up your look may help you look your age, but a lot of people aren't really going to do much more than scan for a first impression when they are say, serving you and your Dad in a restaurant. I'm pretty sure that I was first mistaken for my Dad's wife and for my Mom's sister right around age 16, and I'm not a particularly old-looking person (the last time someone asked for my ID when I was buying alcohol, I was 25, and I live in a country where 18-year-olds can buy booze).
For a lot of people, particularly if they are working a service job and have to pay attention to 1000 things at once, I'm pretty sure the flowchart goes like: Both people appear to be in the age range of 20 - 50 -> They seem to know each other well -> They are opposite genders -> They are probably a couple. Yes it's a dumb heuristic to use, and I think it's often way too familiar/presumptuous to try and ingratiate oneself with customers by asking things like, "So has your husband decided what he'd like to drink tonight?" or w/e. But as a bartender I've caught myself doing things like that alllll the time. It's typical lazy brain stuff that everyone falls into once in a while.
So sure, update your makeup (particularly that matte foundation might be too heavy, from one redhead to another) but to be honest? I think every young woman has experienced this icky Freudian type of moment, no matter how we present ourselves. It's probably not actually because you look like a 40-year-old or a trophy wife. So don't beat yourself up about it too much, OK?
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On Beauty Q&A: ID Photos, Gaudy Shoes, and Looking 10 Years Younger
Re: ID photos, I have a theme and the theme is "striped top". I've been going for this theme for the past 3 years or so and no matter how unflattering the photos are, it always makes me happy to have on my signature "Gettin' My Visa Renewed" stripes.
Do something like that, that's my advice.
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On Aideah and Sophayden
@dj pomegranate That sounds like the perfect game plan for sweeping the Mother of the Year awards from approximately 2020 to 2050. Just give them all to me now.
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On Aideah and Sophayden
@Biketastrophy Nickname her Lu? That's all I've got :/
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On Aideah and Sophayden
@The Lady of Shalott I was actually thinking it would sound like "maiden" but honestly if I get knocked up in my current town... Mayden Berlin COMPLETELY sounds like a celebrity baby name doesn't it. Horrifying.
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On Aideah and Sophayden
I'm gonna have a baby girl and just straight up name her Mayden.
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On Aideah and Sophayden
@Ellie For a while there in middle school my four closest friends were all named Sarah.
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On Happy Hummus Day
Y'all I just made hummus for my roommate's birthday and the secret to everything is: roast your fucking garlic. Take an entire garlic... ummmm,... thing, cut off the stalk, put it in aluminum foil, drizzle olive oil on top, shove it in the oven for an hour. IT WILL BE SO GOOD I SWEAR TO GOD
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On Friday Open Thread
@smackeroni Um, you could go be a bartender. After the first time I threw someone out (shouting, pointing my finger in his face, and holding out my hand for him to pay his tab were all involved) I thought for days and days about how I could've handled the situation better. But then I thought "fuck that guy he was acting like an idiot" and that has been my philosophy on so many insignificant social interactions, ever since.
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On So You Barfed in Your Copy of Jolie Kerr's My Boyfriend Barfed in My Handbag
I can't decide whether I'm relieved or disappointed that the title isn't JIZZCLINER.