@Ellie Well, if it requires a serious answer, it's that 1) she put herself up to be ridiculed when she posted that picture and that response, 2) it's not just that she's not taking third world women and the lactose intolerant into account, she's making it sound like everyone who doesn't have her body is a bad person who is just making excuses, and 3) the picture's implication that having a great body is the most important thing to focus on, rather than the other things that make us interesting people, and that those other things are just "excuses" for not being hot, is profoundly anti-feminist.
I'll send her a picture of my degrees and my paycheque and my bookclub and my fucking liberation.
@dracula's ghost : OH MY GOD
When Pa survives on Christmas candy during the blizzard
When Laura boards in the house with the BATSHITINSANE family while she's teaching school
When Laura THUMP thump THUMPS her desk to get back at Eliza for bullying Carrie (because "not for nothing did Pa describe Laura to be as strong as a French pony")
(God, I loved her in that section!)
I really feel for LW#1. I don't think the problem is really the age gap, I think it's that your gf is being a jerk. And I say this as gently as possible, but it seems like your relationship is already ending. I mean, she hasn't spoken to you in a week. OF COURSE you sent an email, what other option did you have with this person?
It also really angers me when people can't be fair/empathetic about the different financial situations their partners are in. I think that speaks poorly to her character in general.
By leonstj on Security vs. Surprise
20 minutes seems like a long time to say "Wear a wig once in a while."
How has this discussion been going on so long and not a single mention of ferret-faced Ryan Reynolds?
So, in conclusion:
Yes baby, no dog: poop is worse, but inside
Yes dog, no baby: poop is neater, but goes on forever and requires going outside
Yes baby, yes dog: dog will eat baby poop, problem solved!
No baby, no dog: no poop-handling, only pointed inferences from relatives and constantly wondering whether "gotta go home and walk the dog" really means "want to do something other than hang out with you"
LW2: hugs, wine, I hope that our collective aggressive reaction to your letter is not freaking you out too hard, and that you get out of this relationship safely and quickly, take some time to get your head right (as we all need do after any sort of break up) and find a new situation that works better for you than this one.
But also, and relevant to upthread comments about Dan Savage harshing on monogamy: folks who are straight and neither poly nor into kink are not necessarily Westboro Baptist idiots. Some of us are uber-liberal northeastern urbanite intellectual atheists with healthy if vanilla sex lives.
It seems like recently there's a lot more conversation in our culture as a whole about out-of-the-socialized-norm sex and relationship stuff than there has been in the past (maybe some causality w/ 50 Shades, but I think it works the other way around: that book became what it is partly b/c we needed to be having this conversation more openly) - and that dialogue is great! But I don't think it's a fair assumption for anyone or any community to make that people with more traditional preferences are repressed, or haven't considered their preferences as carefully as those with kinkier tastes.
My favorite bathroom graffiti is: "T E Lawrence <3 Robert Graves OXFORD ADULTEROUS ROMANCE! (discuss)"
Someone else: YES