I am in deep and reverent awe of you and the poignant telling of your story. I experienced sexual abuse at the hands of my father. I identify with you greatly and see you as a role model for all people who come from abusive homes. Sending much love to you.
@wander OMG i did the same thing! two weeks (16 days) in the UK after I graduated!! I went by myself too! Except I went to England and Scotland, not Ireland. I will always regret not staying longer.
@Judith Slutler fuck yes.
Once upon a time, a girl decided that she was different from her parents and her entire family. She realized that anyone who told her she was a bad person repeatedly from the age of seven was not worth her time. She went to college and while she had many amazing experiences, her most important one was becoming a person outside of her destructive home. When she failed to set out on her own after college, she had to confront the reality that she was permanently damaged by the upbringing that she almost escaped. While she had a good soul, she never learned how to be a friend or a nice person because she had always been told she was no good. And so, she had no connections to draw upon and found herself friendless when she needed those things desperately. Staring out the window of her childhood bedroom, the girl realized that her hardest work was still ahead of her.
For a few years, I used to live like this. Only I wasn't a sex worker, I was a college student. It rings very very true to me. I had those friends, and then not at all. That's how quickly those friendships dissolve once you cease to live the way they do. Now that I have a boyfriend and I've graduated, things are very very different. But not a day goes by where I don't go back to the summer of 2010 when I was 21, thin, free and heartbroken and doing whatever the hell I wanted to.
I totally spent 8 days alone in London last summer... AND I saw Kate, The Queen, and the whole Royal family in the flesh! Diamond Jubilee :-)
@PistolPackinMama Pardon my failure to write an essay. I really think that people who get angry about this stuff are too reactive and YES should divert their energy otherwise.
But really, thanks for making me out to be the boogeyman. Is this the Hairpin sense of pride/community?
Nah, it's just girls being bitches behind their keyboards. It's not bitchy to express an opinion. It IS bitchy when you tear someone down for doing so.
@melis thought I would re-comment in response specifically to you, melis.
Thanks to the people who didn't lose their heads at my comment. Actually, I think discourse and hearing other people's opinions is healthy. If you are terribly, terribly perturbed by hearing or reading an opinion that is different than your own, I highly suggest you prioritize how you spend your energy.
And by the way, I really love your work.
"The Dead Sea in Jordan made my nipples burn and I had to find a special ointment."