I appreciate this post so much, especially this cut and dry explanation:
"Today, the women in my family make afghans, and some of us go to church. We also have college degrees. We have our own beliefs about procreation, but we also think critically, and we value the expertise of scientists and physicians who study pregnancy and childbirth. We trust their opinions on the subject more than we do that of priests, religious leaders, or CEOs of hobby stores. Why? Because they tell us what our bodies do, not what we must do with them. They provide information that helps us make decisions for ourselves. And that is a paramount value in my family: When it's your body that bears the consequences, you make the decisions. All of them."
Your family sounds amazing. Thank you for weaving us this figurative afghan: I'll be sending it to my mom, with whom I was just discussing this issue.