This might be a good place to ask this question: If I'm standing up in a wedding, am I supposed to buy a gift for the couple as well? I've always thought that being a part of the bridal party was your "gift" since you spend money on lots of things for that (especially as maid of honor), but my best friend was a bridesmaid for a childhood friend over the summer and she bought a gift off the registry. Now I don't know what I'm supposed to do and I'm feeling stressed out about it.
@katiemcgillicuddy I know this is like, 3 months later, but I just have to say that everyone loves Flagpole Sitta. I was a barista for several years in a busy coffee shop on my college campus and we were allowed to make our own playlists for the cafe. I had Flagpole Sitta on mine and every time it came on, you could see everyone in the place slowly start nodding their heads along to it.
I'm still absorbing a lot of from this interview and thoughtful comment thread, but I just want to say that I hope to see more pieces and discussion like this in the future. Thank you to everyone who has contributed.
@honey cowl I have no advice, only commiseration. All of my friends LOVE that song and video and I just want to be like, "Do you not see how problematic everything about this is?"
Being socially and politically aware can be hard and tiresome and defeating. Sometimes everything feels crushing.
ETA: I'm sorry that's not the least bit helpful or actually addresses your question.
@Smallison Portabello mushroom stack! I don't even know what that is, but it sounds just delicious.
@coolallison Michigan. Come to Michigan, the weather this week has been just perfect (if you like sunny and low 70's).
This is, however, highly atypical and last week's highs hovered in the upper 90's with a heat index of 103. So much humidity. I wanted to die.
I love all of these so much.
@cat_ballou I will look into this! Mostly I just wear Kiehl's Musk Oil (not the perfume), but I am heavily drawn toward fragrance typically marketed toward men.
I loved this piece. It's so relatable for me. While I wouldn't say I'm a super androgynous lady, I definitely lean that way. I've always thought that women wearing pieces of menswear look so confident and sexy and that's exactly how I feel when I do. I'm most comfortable wearing a mens oxford (sleeves rolled), skinny jeans and motorcycle boots. I also recently realized that over half of my clothes are mens or unisex. That said, I do own several dresses and like to get femme'd up once in a while. The bottom line for me is that whatever look you're putting out there, just own it and you can't go wrong. Confidence is key.
@wobbletown I'm very late to this conversation, but biking after dark actually isn't so bad once you do it a few times. I lived in Southwest for a while and now I'm up in the Cass Corridor and I've never had any problems coming to/from the Villages, downtown, Eastern Market, Corktown, etc. Obviously if you're going through a sketchy area it can be a risky move, but I've found that as long as I'm very aware of my surroundings and I'm biking fairly fast, no one even gives me a second look. Also I have pepper spray handy at all times. Oh and make sure you have multiple lights so cars can see you and a bright headlight. I once got tossed off my bike because I was riding through an area without streetlights and I didn't see the very large pothole in front of me. :(
As a side note: My experiences obviously do not apply to the majority of the city. But regarding the typical center city neighborhoods, I say go for it.
I liked this a lot, but for the majority of it I thought that the title was just an oblique reference to those few episodes of the X-Files where Scully narrates the whole thing with a train-of-thought inner monologue about Life and Meaning and other Deep Thoughts. And I loved the (perceived) subtle nod. Then I got to the actual reference to Scully and was a little disappointed. But I still really liked the piece!
Also I did not know that Gillian Anderson was only 25 at the start of the X Files. I don't know if this a good or bad thing, but to me she has never looked any younger or older than 35.