@VoxPopuli Uh, LW #2, I mean. I never catch these things before my window to edit expires.
LR #2. Everything you describe sounds so familiar to me - the backsliding to the dark place, the shame in the morning and then questioning whether this guy is a jerk or not (he is).
Which is my way of saying that I quit drinking years ago and my life really did get better, and more importantly I stopped wanting to be around people who treated me poorly. So, you say you are working on it, and that's amazing. If you work on healing yourself, you will want to surround yourself with better people. This guy was an insensitive jerk - why would he humiliate you in front of your friends - who he just met - on your birthday?
Sorry if I am projecting. I don't judge others' drinking, but I related a lot to what you wrote and it reminded me of my life as it was. I hope you find yourself in a happier place soon whatever you do.
Ok, I would not turn that one down, but did you see this one? Chocolate-hazelnut goodness in a jar.