By HaughtyTotty on Manly Me
Fathers, don't take your young daughters to Hooters. Just don't. It ain't helping. Unless you're also taking them to Peckers for equal-opportunity gazing.
By melis on Friday Open Thread
We need an MRA movement, but like, for women, you know?
So, Hairpin. About 100 days ago, I donated some stem cells to my dad to combat his stage-4 lymphoma. Since then, we've just been waiting to see how things would go. Well, the 100 Day Later scans show no evidence of cancer in his marrow, nor in the rest of his body.
My dad is coming home cancer free.
@Slutface Nobody ever invites you for the gift. Generally, each guest costs way more than whatever you're getting off the registry.
By hallelujah on Friday Open Thread
I spilled a full glass of red wine on my baby's head last night. He's a little purple today. At least I don't have to worry about getting him baptized now (that's how that works, right?)
HOPE YOU HAD A GOOD FIRST WEEK, JIA. Let's Pinup, Michigan!
ETA: I did the opposite of what that article suggested, & started playing Candy Crush today. WHY GOD WHYYYYY.
For what it's worth, a friend of mine took shrooms and ended up crying for seven hours in the Van Gogh museum. (I also have friends who did the Ann Frank thing.)
Look, people, Amsterdam has some gorgeous parks. If you must take shrooms, why not go to the park with some nice English students from your hostels and talk to the bees? Just for example.
By Judith Slutler on Kanye on Kanye
@iceberg I can't hate on Ye either! He's like a character on a sitcom entitled Oh, Kanye! to me.
By SarahP on Friday Open Thread
My husband works for a video game company, and one of the artists designed a set of characters where the dude had an awesome armor-y outfit and the lady had... cleavage. Barely an outfit at all. My husband used this as an opportunity to ask his bosses to set a standard: when they do character sets for this game, the men and women have to have the same percentage of skin showing. And everyone was like, "Oh, yeah, that makes sense. Okay." So they're going to be using that rule for designing characters. I'm so proud of him for speaking up!
I'm feeling kind of like a badass right now (or, rather, just "an adult") but I totally just walked up to the president of where I work and asked if I could talk to her about how she got to where she is and what advice she has for me. I had to tell someone. Because I'm really proud of myself for taking action instead of just sitting my grey cubicle of sadness, feeling stuck and miserable. *pats self on the back*
ETA: OH and I just bought Book of Mormon tickets... soo... that's awesome, too.
I guess I'm having an awesome day. I just realized that.
By iceberg on Friday Open Thread
**SERIOUS (and loooong, sorry) POST**
This is for @Verity, who had asked me about my experience with regard to selective reduction, and which I actually don't think I ended up talking about. It might be upsetting for anyone who has done it or who has had any upsetting experience with abortion, so I apologize for that.
At nine weeks, when we discovered that all three embryos had attached, the doctor advised us that it was still extremely likely and common that one or two of them would simply "drop out" between then and 15 weeks.
At 15 weeks, there were three little gummi bears on the ultrasound. The doctor asked us if we would consider selective reduction. Basically the more babies there are in there, the riskier the pregnancy, so with high-order pregnancies it's sometimes a better idea to jettison some of them to give the mother and the remaining fetuses a better chance at survival and healthy pregnancy.
Part of our agreement with the embryo adoption was that we had signed a contract saying we wouldn't abort any of the fetuses (because obviously the idea is to give them a chance at life), BUT if we had really needed to, there isn't a great deal they could have done about it; in fact, I'm not sure they ever would have known. The bigger consideration was what it meant for (all of) us. Tinkering around in there would be risky - what if we endangered or damaged the remaining fetuses while taking one out? But also we are not wealthy, we don't have any family support on this continent, and three is a LOT. I thought about those litle limpets clinging onto my uterus for life, how much we had wanted them and how against the odds it was that all of them were still there.
Ultimately, especially given this could be our one chance at having kids at all, we decided that we would make it work with triplets.
BUT the whole experience gave me even more respect and sympathy for women who DO have to abort (whether one or more), and so even though my choice was to keep them, I became more fiercely protective of a woman's right to not keep any fetus she feels she can't keep, for whatever reason she may have.