Lester! I do hope you sterilized that thing first.
I can't believe you guys did this, but I am so glad you did.
Holy shit, Jazmine, somehow this post made me realize for the VERY FIRST TIME that I am as old as your mother and I am simultaneously terrified of being that old and also thinking your mom must be so proud of you. And this is kind of freaking me out so I can't talk about Schoolhouse Rock, even though (like your mom) I grew up with it in the seventies. OK I'm going to go hide from my feelings now.
This was a fantastic interview. Especially this part:
Evolutionary psychologists and self-help authors who are walking the same line of reasoning are basically giving women the message that if they do not abide by these stereotypes they will not be loved. This is a very powerful threat. Most of us want to be loved, so what ends up happening is that even women who are feminists, who feel liberated, who have powerful careers and educations still think that they have to perform their gender in specific ways in order to be loved. It’s a very powerful incentive.
Somebody send Amy Alkon a copy of this book! Maybe I'll do it myself...
Thank you so much for this thought-provoking essay. Among American women, I have often encountered a feeling of resistance toward separating martial-arts classes by sex. Attitudes are different in different cultures, though, as is implied here.
I studied Shotokan karate in Japan for six years. Every Tuesday night the class was divided into men and women, with the men at the front of the dojo and the women at the back. I was initially resistant to the idea of training separately, but I came to really like it. It helped that the practice was actually usually more challenging than what the men were doing. And the training had a very different feel to it than the mixed classes. The age range was quite wide (some of the older women only attended the women-only classes) and there was a lot more mutual encouragement. The class was taught by a man, but he was never condescending and demanded the utmost from everyone he taught.
This was a contrast to the women-only aikido class I attended a single time (aikido is my main art, and I practiced continuously throughout my time in Japan). In that case there was definitely the sense that the women were second-rate students and not to be taken seriously. The women in that class were not pushed at all, and the male instructor brought in a male student to use for demonstrating techniques rather than using any of the women. I never went back after that one time.
All of which is to say, a women-only class can take many forms and fill very different needs depending on how the training is conducted and the attitude of the instructor.
Good lord, this is wonderful.
I am not a fan of Xmess. I plan to spend Sunday and Monday celebrating the solstice with my hippie friends (mostly will involve saunas, nudity, music, and drinking I do hope) and then going about my business for the remainder of the week as if nothing out of the ordinary were occurring. But I'll certainly pour one out for RLS and Ludacris--and you!
Aw, Jazmine, this made my heart swell. Now I gotta call my sister (I only have the one, but the phenomenon of fighting like cats and then suddenly realizing we like each other is similar).
@Jazmine Hughes Haha frankly I am quite happy either way!
I’m absolutely ready for a woman president. I’m ready for a woman nighttime-talk-show host, to tell you the truth. I wonder which will be first.
Yep, Chris Rock just stole my heart too.
This week was a most excellent week in Hairpinnage. My favorite was the 39 Questions piece! But seriously, there was so much good stuff. Thanks for all your work!
Jazmine, you are welcome to eat all the Gushers within reach (*shudder*) and I will eat the tomatoes. And we will both think we got the far better part of the deal!