@OhMarie I hope you love it as much as I do! I was actually going for a Carrie Brownstein (from Portlandia) hairdo but my curly hair wasn't having it. So my amazing stylist did some magic and now I feel like the prettiest starlet on the MGM lot!
I *JUST* got my hair cut yesterday and it is, no joke, almost exactly like that Liz Taylor pic.
LOOK, MA! I'M ON TREND! **FINALLY**
@falconet Ha! We've played all of those. My 4 year old STILL thinks "Misidentified Body Part" is hilarious. Sample: "Why are your socks on your nose?" "That's my feet!" "Oh. ::points to belly:: This is your face, though, right?" And so on. Of course when she was younger it was just a simple point-misname-laugh-repeat.
My personal PNW naming favorite is "Dismal Nitch".
Look at the veins on the arms of the winner. Before and after. Damn.
Thirded. It was a gradual slide into the "I could cry just thinking about how much I love her" stage... it definitely was not before the 6 month period, for me.
I have told this to a LOT of moms who have confided about feeling like a terrible parent because they didn't get the "lightning bolt" experience from the get-go. It's pretty ridiculous, if you think about it: Just because SOME people fall in love with their partners at first sight doesn't mean that everyone should. Or that their relationships are less "right" if it took more than a glance across a crowded room on an enchanted evening. Why should parental love not have multiple ways of manifesting itself as well?
Such an interesting idea that the "transformative" part is actually in relation to your own parents. I had the gradual climb (and am now completely blotto-crazy about my 8 year old and my 4 year old) but it has actually had a worsening effect on my relationship with my parents. I feel like I'm actually more critical of things that, prior to having kids, were just "things my quirky parents did" and now actually feel really short-sighted and make me feel angry on behalf of my younger self. When really, my rational self knows that my parents were just doing the best they could with very few skills, and a lot of other baggage.
My husband and I paid for our entire wedding and while it was stressful to make it work within the budget, we were able to pick a few items that were really important (for me: the dress and photography; for my husband: driving his vintage car from the church to the reception (which req'd a fair amount of cash to be sure it would start!, and an hosted bar and sumptuous meal). We skimped (or skipped) the stuff that didn't make the cut: favors, flowers, videographer, etc.
His sister, on the other hand, had mom and dad pop for the wedding. Which was held in their hometown (rather than the city where she had lived for 8 years and where most of her friends were). I was a bridesmaid and as we waited in the narthex of the church for the music to start, she whispered to me that she didn't know half of the people who were there.
I don't think she minded but I thought it was kind of sad. :(
@whoa whoa whoa
Whoops -- sorry for the misread of your first post!
I would say absolutely, give it as a couple. It sounds wonderful. If you were not an artist and went to a gallery to buy them the same painting as a present, you wouldn't think twice about giving it from the two of you, right? I think that, if you have any concerns, maybe your bf could write a nice note in the card you include that explains why you guys picked that particular piece. (Feel free to take poetic license here. "BF and I always enjoy spending time with you guys; this piece reminded us both of the relaxed and mellow feeling we get when we hang out with you, so we wanted you to have it. Congratulations!" )
Also - Oh, the misses. They hung in the home for a few years, but I slowly phased them out. One was given to Goodwill, the other was put in the basement "until I find the right spot" , got water-damaged, and is now hanging in the kid's treehouse. Heeee. I will say that they recently gave us a photographic print that we LOVE. I don't know if our tastes are aligning or if, perhaps, my m-i-l is just paying better attention to what WE like. It has a place of honor and I tell her how much I like it regularly.)
I wouldn't sweat it. I'm sure that your friends will appreciate the gift even if it's late. Whether the 1 year rule is correct or not, it's pretty commonly accepted, so I'm sure they won't think twice about it.
If you are feeling uncomfortable about it, maybe wait until close to the one year point and then send it as an anniversary gift? With a note saying "I hope your first year together was as wonderful as your wedding day was! I was so happy to be with you to share the joy! Happy anniversary!" That way you're alluding to the wedding and if she/he even noticed that there was no gift from you, they'll get that it 's a wedding gift. And if they didn't even notice (which is a real possibility depending on the size of the wedding/the couple's organizational level/where they are on those blasted thank you cards) they'll just think you're supremely thoughtful. Win/Win.