Drinking, Pets, and Babies

My husband of one year (whom I've known for 10) is a caring, selfless person, and I feel lucky to have him. There's no question I want to spend my life with him. But there is a recurring issue in our relationship. He needs to go out and party sometimes to blow off steam. It's not that he's hanging out with girls or anything, I fully trust him on that, but it used to be a problem when he'd stay out till five and keep me worrying, driving drunk and doing irresponsible shit. My concern would always appall him — his family aren't worriers, and I admire that, but I can't help but wait up until he gets home safe if he's making bad decisions. He'd view my concern like it was a threat to his freedom, like I was killing his buzz. READ MORE

Fantasies, Expiration Dates, and the Vasectomy

I'm happily married to an amazing dude and we have three wonderful kids.  After much discussion, we've determined that our family is complete, and that him getting a vasectomy is the best thing for us to do. My husband is completely on board logically, but the thought of getting a vasectomy makes him squeamish and nauseous (which I can understand). READ MORE

Ask a Married Dude: Bob and Eli

Going to try to be concise here, but I have a feeling that won't be easy and I might skip over some of the stuff that won't make me seem like a total monster, but oh well. READ MORE

Locks, Ships, and the Sexless Non-Marriage

Do you think that for a relationship to be ultimately successful, the man has to like the woman more than she likes him? My mother (married for 36 years) swears by this rule, and I'm curious to hear a man's perspective. READ MORE

The One, the Affair, and the Infuriating Family

I've been in an amazing relationship with an awesome Dude for a little over a year.  He is smart, ambitious, talented, passionate, caring, affectionate, supportive, funny, etc. I admire, respect, and love him more than I ever thought was possible.  This year, for the first time ever, I split my Christmas between my family and his, and met his entire extended family for the first time. Naturally, this was taken as a sign that things are "getting serious," although everyone was nice, and not overbearing or pushy about settling down. READ MORE

Ask a Married Dude: Frackers Love Too

I'm 25, and have been in a relationship since college (almost four years now?!). We've had our share of ups and downs, I know this man wants to marry me, and loves me more than anyone has in my life. This used to make me happy, but ever since I started graduate school in the fall, my eyes have been wandering and I feel totally uninterested in my relationship. I feel two sources of pressure — one, that if we make it through grad school (the next two years) we'll definitely get married and that freaks me out (too young!), and two that he is one of my first serious relationships and I might be missing out on a whole world of other, better, serious relationships. READ MORE

Kids: Worth It? and Game Day Etiquette

I just read the advice column where one of the married dudes wrote some really sweet stuff about his kids. This is something the boyfriend and I have been talking a lot about and I need a third party to give me some advice. READ MORE

Bedroom Routines, Presents, and Work "Friends"

I've been dating an incredible guy for almost six years (through college and beyond). He is caring, smart, motivated, funny, and all the other amazing qualities a girl could ask for. Except one thing: our sex has become... mediocre. At the beginning, we couldn't keep our hands off each other, as is to be expected when people are first falling in love. But over all these years, sex is still the same as it always was — same routine, same place. I find myself getting bored, resentful and generally losing interest. This scares me, because I love him and don't want to feel these things toward him. I've heard people say that losing interest in sex is the first sign a relationship is doomed — what are your thoughts? Is it normal, in a long-term relationship, to have lulls in sex-drive or could this be the beginning of the end? How can I get him to shake things up without making him feel criticized or embarrassed?
 Please help! READ MORE

Living Together, Cheating Compulsions, and Marriage Smoke Signals

I need some guidance on the whole moving-in-together step of a relationship. My hombre and I are soon approaching three years in our loving, committed, and wonderful relationship. We are in our early/mid twenties, have stable jobs, and we get along well with each other's families and friends. The last time we talked about moving in together was when we were graduating from college, and we both agreed that we wanted to wait until we were older and had more life experience. That was just over a year ago, and now I am interested in putting the conversation back on the table. READ MORE

Children, Married Coworkers, and "Self-Actualized" Exes

My boyfriend and I have been together for two years, and we had been living with each other for about a year and a half.  Things are great, but there are the normal ups and downs of life, mainly difficulties with money due to the general economy being shitty.  I am in law school and about 15 years younger than him (25 and 40).  My guy has never been married and does not have kids.  I have always wanted a family and have been upfront about my desire to have kids (in the future after I have graduated law school and found a job). My boyfriend and I are very much on the same page when it comes to values and instincts about raising children. READ MORE