my god i am late to this but
i have never been inside a store or touched a lululemon garment but aesthetically i find it as troubling as spanx. none of this cleavagey workout shit with a draped stomach to forgive the belly as if it needed forgiving. we must embrace our flesh as god intended us to, in old college fundraiser shirts or whatever the fuck does not cost $100 to soak up sweat
Fuck you Geoffrey.
I'm a married woman and I still hide my mustache bleach. Does that count?
First off, "She believed them to be monogamous, but for Geoffrey it was a different story" is a bullshit way to say "Geoffrey, a dirtbag, was cheating on his girlfriend." Second, the worst time I forgot to hide something was when I had a motivational screen saver of people I was jealous of or had crushes on, etc., and my mom came over to visit, and I left it on, and she was like "isn't that that [smart, attractive] guy from your high school [five years ago][who you barely knew but I know his mom]?" and I was like "NO!" and dove towards my computer, and now (four years later) she still mentions him to me all the time in this fake off-hand way even though we're pretending like she never saw the screen saver.
Look, nice try, but this is not pissed off enough about how fucking offensive and appropriative this was. For more reflection on the forced sexualization of black women and how, once again, solidarity is for white women, please read this. http://groupthink.jezebel.com/solidarity-is-for-miley-cyrus-1203666732
SHOCKED that there is no mention of the wire
@stuffisthings Yeah, I don't think all those women on the internet discussed by the interviewees saying HS is the worst were off the mark there, with their intimate experiences of his misogynist appropriative exploitative behavior and the pointing out of his gig as a widely published tenured professor dealing in gender studies. And also a pathetic joke. That too. But least important.
@stuffisthings He actually is representative of a broader trend. Or, maybe not "trend" exactly, but tendency - the tendency that some men have to make every conversation All About Them, even when their perspectives aren't needed, wanted, or useful. Perhaps especially then. That's important and when one of the most high-profile practitioners of his extra-gross brand of exploitation leaves the Internet, we're allowed to celebrate it. Publicly speaking as a feminist when you aren't actually a feminist really is a serious problem for feminism, especially when the speaker is a dude, because by virtue of his gender he will be taken more seriously by more people who are more willing to listen to him than will any dozen actual feminists who happen to be women. It's naive at best to pretend that this doesn't happen.
I think most of us have met that guy City_Dater mentions at the top of the comments, capital-F Feminists who can't stop talking about their own feelings and thoughts and can't be bothered to listen to women or give a shit about any of us, in particular. They're constantly trying to redirect conversations to center themselves, or the Extremely Clever Points they want to make at the expense of listening or engaging on anything that might make them uncomfortable, or might mean that they have to acknowledge that a woman might know more about a particular subject than they do.
I don't mean to be a jerk, because I like your comments and think you're generally a thoughtful and interesting dude, but making jokes comparing feminists who don't like male faux-feminists who cheat on their wives, try to kill their girlfriends, and attack women of color to intraparty anti-fascist fights in the Spanish Civil War (because you...like making Spanish Civil War jokes? Even when they have nothing at all to do with the subject at hand?) is in my view not a bad illustration of that dynamic, actually.
I think it's interesting (and also sad) that the days when you could transform your life and reinvent yourself from the ground up are pretty much gone. It's so easy to dig into someone's past now, and I find that to be a double-edged sword of sorts. On the one hand, I'd like to know if my kid's teacher was a violent person, but on the other, sometimes people just need a second chance, you know?
Can I HIGHLY RECOMMEND The Love Song of Johnny Valentine to read, in regards to the Beiberish phenomenon, if you're into that sort of thing? It's a really good novel! And also, The Cultural Significance of the Child Star, if you are wildly unemployed and pop-culture nerdy?