So when I was growing up I read voraciously, but now not so much because, you know, haha the internet. But I'm trying to read more again and I'm just... underwhelmed a lot by the writing I see? I feel terrible about having this opinion, but I still have it. You guys, I think I've been spoiled by the existence of fanfic???
@yeah-elle I think the experience in Minneapolis/Minnesota is particularly interesting because we're considered a fairly well-educated and liberal state compared to the rest of the U.S. We have a high percentage of people who hold post-grad degrees and I think Minneapolis was actually ranked the #1 most LGBT friendly city?
So I think it culminates in an environment where people still hold racist beliefs, but they're also aware enough to know where/when they can say those things (in public in rural MN vs in private in the city) and who to say them to.
I also hear a lot of sentences from my white friends that start out with "Not to be racist, but [insert ethnic group that's not Chinese] is..."??? Like wtf, because I'm not part of that race, you think I'll go along with it?
@lalaland I've never been referred to as Oriental, but one of my coworkers at my previous job would use it as a synonym for East Asian to describe things (e.g. Oriental movies). Every single time I heard him use it, my reaction was a mix of offense and confusion because he was 26 and I just never expected to hear that word from someone that young???
It's interesting to compare experiences based on location. As a Chinese person living in the Minneapolis area, I've only heard of these scenarios happening with other E. Asian friends in places like NYC rather than experiencing them myself. Most of what I get is ignorance, being the "Asian Expert" to white people, and dealing with ~liberals~ who think they're so progressive and open-minded and show it by telling me how colorblind they are.
@Emma Peel Hmm. I just realized LW1 can be read different ways. "...but who is now asking you to analyze conversations they are having on OkCupid?" I read "they" as the friend messaging with the ex, but maybe they = just the friend? If it's just convos she's having with random people, then yeah I agree with you, it's typical blahs of dating. But I initially read it as the friend talking to her ex on okcupid, which I guess sounds ridiculous now that I think about it because why would they not have other means of communication, but if that IS the case, then I feel there's more cause for concern.
I think I just messed up on the pronouns. :|
@iceberg Yes, that was my reaction too. Asking people to analyze an okcupid message? Meticulously tracking when the guy last signed on? That's definitely annoying to hear about, but also unhealthy behavior for the friend.
@franceschances Yeahhhh, that was my suspicion. The Chipotle I used to go to by my old office was pretty much all latin@ employees and then one day it was some loud skinny ass white kid making my burrito bowl. If this post and its comments are anything to go by, apparently most people haven't noticed a difference or don't care, but I care because CHIPOTLE IS JUST NOT DELICIOUS ANYMORE.
@itiresias I definitely agree with your friend's theory. These days whenever I step into a Chipotle, 9 times out of 10, instead of making my order in any sort of efficient manner, the h.s. kids are cracking loud, obnoxious jokes at each other. Like, please have some sort of awareness around what is appropriate behavior around customers???
I liked Chipotle up until a year or two ago when all the Chipotles around me started hiring like, high school kids and suddenly the rice was never thoroughly cooked and nobody knew how to master the art of wrapping a giant burrito without spilling the innards everywhere.
WHAT HAPPENED TO YOU, CHIPOTLE. :( Sometimes I still go, but it never lives up to what I want it to be.
@Ellie The pill I take hasn't given me any side effects, but that's just my body. I also lucked out since this was the first brand I tried, but I know lots of women have to do trial and error before they find one that doesn't mess them up more than it's worth.
@lookuplookup I was just going to make a comment about how my new favorite thing to do is make bulk meals and freeze them. SO EASY AND EXCITING.
The other week I made baked ravioli and it was delicious. Probably not terribly healthy though...