@A. Louise I know you addressed this a little bit, but if it's at all possible - I don't know what the job market is like where you are or your financial situation- just quit.
If that means getting a job as a barista for two months while you look for another real job, or get your freelancing mojo back... it will be worth it. This job is ruining your life, and it's not going to lead to any advancement or get any better.
Just. Get. Out.
@yeah-elle I haven't seen it, but I read an article in the Globe and Mail quoting one of the creators, and he or she (can't remember) basically alluded to your point, but they said that they really wanted to tell all these diverse stories but they only way you really get to make a major high production value show with those stories and characters is to sneak them in with Prison Barbie. So I expect the other characters will get fleshed out a lot, because it seemed to be a priority.
@QuiteAmiable A bride that won't let you wear different shoes for health reasons? Eff that, man. Brides be cray.
@yeah-elle Good advice to get measured first - though she's a mum and mums know everything, so she probably knows all her deets already. I will look up the thread from last week! Thanks!
@JanieS Do you have a friend you could ask? Like, make it a fake-serious jokey thing, where you are conducting an important scientific experiment and it is their job to help you track the results.
Or if you just explain why you're asking (so they know you won't take offence, and so they know the reason you stink, if indeed you do)? Like, "Stacey, I need your help. Stink or no stink?"
@Li'l Sebastian Livestrong has a food tracker that is meant to let you track calories eaten vs workouts etc, but I bet you could just skip entering some of the information if you didn't want to see the balance sheet, and just use it as a diary.
@QuiteAmiable I know this isn't what you want to hear, but is there any way you can get out of the heels thing? It is reallllllly bad for your ankles and feet, especially if they already have problems.
Hello all, long time no type etc.
I've heard a lot of talk here and other places about buying bras online for sizes that are underserved in brick-and-mortar stores (ie, big sizes).
My mum was complaining about not being able to find bras that fit. I don't know exactly what cup size she is (probably D or above), and she's maybe a size 16? XL shirts?
Anyway, good recommendations for buying bras online, especially for people who aren't used to internet shopping?
@granny squares Have you considered writing her a letter? You'll be able to get everything across without getting too emotional, or getting interrupted.
Like it or not, she's going to be a part of your family for the rest of her life, so I'm always a proponent of making peace instead of cutting people off.
In the letter, you can acknowledge her feelings and desire to be involved in your life. In addition to the possibility that she's just not a nice person, she's probably afraid of 'losing' another family member, and is taking it out on you. Huge upheavals like the death of a loved one, or marriage of another, do NOT always bring out the best in people. I'm not excusing her behaviour, but trust me: you won't be able to manage your relationship with her unless you try to understand her point of view, and why she does what she does. Also, try to reflect on the motivations behind your interactions with her - is your impression of her coloured by what your fiance has said? Are you afraid of her impacting you two's relationship?
Make. Acknowledge that both your emotions are running high with the wedding coming up, and ask to start the relationship fresh. Explain that you want to build a positive relationship with her, and to put everything else behind you. Of course, this won't actually be possible unless you actually do want to! As for asking her to change, explain in the most me-focused language how her actions have made you feel. Don't accuse her of being mean, etc, just pick a few (two or three!) issues - like say, the children comments - and explain how they make you feel. Try to make her understand YOUR point of view, just as you're trying to acknowledge hers.
I hope it helps. Good luck. Worst case scenario, move to Peru.
Travel advice please!
I'm going to China this November for school, and I'll have some time either before or after to travel around (the school project is only in Shandong province). I have no knowledge of Mandarin, and I will be on a grad-school budget. Does anyone have any recommendations for what to do, and how to do it? Anyone with experience for a 20-something white girl travelling alone or with another woman in China?
Really, I'm trying to decide between doing a cheap package tour (I've seen some interesting ones) or going on my own. Assuming I stick to tourist spots (Beijing, great wall, Xi'an maybe), is it reasonably straightforward to get around on trains, transit, etc?
Thanks in advance!