@iceberg I think it's just important to keep it focused on the opportunities it'll open up. What I would be happy to hear: "Dude, you gotta step it up. Look at the way you're presenting yourself. If you look like you don't care about yourself, why would anyone expect you to care about them? We need you figure out how you can put your best self out there." - and then you have to actually listen to who he wants to be, rather than trying to dictate sweater vests and bow ties and such.
I think sometimes people keep themselves from improving their looks because they subconsciously think it will filter out the people who aren't willing to get to know the "real" them and save them from being hurt. I don't think that works. It just limits their opportunities and at some point you just have to get out there and mix it up.
So then he has to, like, spin his whole body around if he wants to get any work done? Seems unwieldy.
@RK Fire Yeah, this is tough because you run the risk of isolating yourself, which is something I've done for extended periods of time. I think the key is to be comfortable with the uncertainty yourself. People selfishly want your life to make sense to them so they don't have to worry about you too much. They're always looking for some kind of linear solution which is counteractive to creative or entrepreneurial pursuits. Your attitude has to be, "This is what I'm doing, and it's the best way for me to do it."
Then you need other people around you who can understand that your life will take a different shape from anyone else's; that sometimes you need to go draw pictures of trees for a while to be a better writer.
An addendum to Rule 6: Watch out for people who are trying to do what you're doing, but don't believe anymore. A lack of enthusiasm is contagious and let's in all of the the judgey feelings out there (and in there).
@emmycantbemeeko I'm gonna guess this article comes as less of a shock to someone whose father has been dressing exclusively in leather for five years. They now know more about the inner workings and motivations of their father than I'l l ever know about mine. Even if it's embarrassing, it probably beats emotions that are repressed and hidden.
It's like there's a bunga-bunga party in Bissinger's pants right now.
@nogreeneggs Italians should run the world because they understand that it takes two people to properly tailor extremely expensive leather pants in a way that will mildly arouse a wealthy middle-aged man with massive insecurities. Also, Berlusconi did a bang-up job running their country.
"This is why Italians should run the world."
"I wanted the power that sex provides..."!!!
...all because he didn't get laid in high school.