On Quiz: Are You Being Insane About Choosing Your Bridesmaids' Dresses?
@beanie she MUST hate them--anyone who's detail-oriented enough to have "groom" stitched into her fiance's sneakers in precisely her theme color doesn't just "forget" to design a waist into a dress.
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On Quiz: Are You Being Insane About Choosing Your Bridesmaids' Dresses?
my bridesmaid-dress selection process:
me: "ladies, please wear some kind of black dress. don't be naked. well, okay, be naked if you want."
bridesmaids: 75 emails about fit, length, fabric, fabric "sheen," coordinated accessories
me: LALALALALA you are grown-ass ladies and i'm busy being upsold into $500 flower arrangements i don't want by my future mother-in-law.
everyone: shows up dressed appropriately and looking lovely.
fin.
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On Woman Not a Fan?
so, i have read neither her entire article nor all the comments here, but...this woman does know there are other feminist blogs on the internet, yes? much harder-core and explicitly wonky feminist blogs? and maybe she could read those too and be more satisfied with the state of the ladynets?
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On Our Bella, Ourselves
@El Knid how on earth is jane eyre passive? she needs a job, she gets one. she falls in love with a married dude, saves his life from what she imagines is a crazy murderer. she finds out he's married, does not appreciate his married-ness, leaves. in addition to sassing up a STORM. lady is anything BUT passive.
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On Our Bella, Ourselves
@Kathryn VanArendonk@twitter since i haven't read the books, can you explain something to me about this happy nuclear family ending? what's the deal with the vampire baby? is it going to be an infant forever? how did it even grow and develop at all if development is arrested at vampire-ing (see: most hot-vampire stories, but especially Kirsten Dunst in "Interview")?
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On Kids: Worth It? and Game Day Etiquette
@punkahontas The problem is, you don't really know if you made the right decision until you've made it and you're living it.
as a nervy girl who straight-up hates uncertainty and also a lady who wants children in the soonish future (and who has much-younger siblings and a child-centered job, so has some sense of the myriad ways tiny people can trash your outfit/day/life), my strategy for judging the kids decision is the same strategy i've developed for all crazy-giant Life Choices: THE OUTCOME IS NOT THE POINT (necessarily). there are always going to be (SO MANY) more uncontrollable and unforeseeable variables than easily controlled and foreseen variables. so the judgement to be made is: "did i make this decision as thoughtfully as i could, in good faith and with as much knowledge about myself and the situation AS WAS AVAILABLE AT THE TIME?"
if the answer is yes, then it wasn't a "bad" decision, even if the kid you make as a result sucks or the kid you don't make as a result is one you miss later. you did what you could with what you had. that's all you've got.
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On "Before You Die, You See"
okay, okay, you GUYS. so i saw this my senior year of high school during some late showing on a school night. 'cause it's senior year, i guess. so my best friend and i are driving home at like one in the morning through the horrifying monster fog, and we're trying to decide if we should spend the night because obviously it's easier for evil ghost girls to kill you one at a time, right? we decide to go to our own houses, because we're WRONG ABOUT EVERYTHING, and I get to my room and then i remember that my bed IS LITERALLY FIVE FEET FROM MY TELEVISION. the one from which the evil ghost girl is going to crawl and devour me! so then i called my now-husband, at college on the east coast where it was four am, and made him talk to me until i feel asleep.
ps: can we also talk about how i wake up like five times a night to pee and since watching paranormal activity that ritual has become much more harrowing?
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On Dear Hydrangeas
@Alixana my wedding bouquets were hydrangeas too! considering we almost had an "ironic songs only" playlist (as in, walking down the aisle to "no children"), i'm okay with this.
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On Dear Hydrangeas
has anyone mentioned that they grow in big awesome orbs? that's my favorite part. that, and the fact that they come in BLUE! how many flowers have blue blossoms? i had them at my wedding, and it was awesome.
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On Amusingly Horrible Things I Have Said: The Bracket
my dear husband can get VERY enthused about internet things--play this game! watch this video! immediately!--and in his excitement can get a little...railroady? occasionally when he recommends something too vociferously, i will...not look at it?
i try to keep my tiny rebellions low-key, but one time after he reminded/nagged me to look at something, i said, "sometimes you tell me to do things and i deliberately don't do them." WHAT?
the confused puppy look i got for that one will haunt me the rest of my days.