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So because people are jerks in creative writing programs, we should also be jerks on the internet?
Also, I have done multiple creative writing programs, including one at the graduate level. It was my experience that while my classmates' criticism was often harsh and intense, no one ever attacked any of my life decisions for being different from what they would have done had they been in my place.
I agree that some of the criticism on this article is legitimate and writing-based, but I would hardly say that it is the bulk of the comments. A good deal of the remarks here appear to be anonymous rage directed at a woman that probably none of us know for making poor choices when presented with certain opportunities, or "privileges," since everyone likes to toss that word around as if it has one conclusive meaning to all of us.
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Edith, you speak to me. The bras, the recycling, the beneficial bacteria. I am in the same place right now.
Thanks for not writing a "Can women have it all?" piece. I much prefer your "Can this woman throw it all away?"
I have no idea what the commenter is referring to.
I CAN'T BELIEVE I WAS IN A 2 HOUR MEETING WHEN THIS POST WENT UP.
AHP is so right. Criminal was Instagram before there was Instagram.
Oh, God, Fiona Apple. I got into her so late, but I love her so deeply that surely that makes up for it? The song that brought me to her (however late) was "I Know". That SONG.
Also "Hot Knife" may be the most perfect song ever made.
@shannanigans Those are the best lyrics ever written. Just ever. Man.
@astronauta You know, I try very hard to just not read the comments and not respond, but look. This is not a meaningful critique; it is a drive-by zinger. AHP and I are both very thoughtful, very conscientious people who MAKE MISTAKES SOMETIMES and are more than able to admit to them when people want to engage with us. We are both very accessible. My email is in my commenting profile. AHP actively reads the comments.
Even more, we are actually interested in what people have to say. But if all you're going to throw around is "disturbing," which is extremely loaded, how are we supposed to have a conversation about why you're disappointed and how we might, or whether we should, shift our thinking and our language? It's fine if you don't want to have that conversation, but trying to, like, Social Justice or Privilege Shame us for it (ironic!) is an ineffective strategy, more or less anonymous interlocutor.
If anyone wants to engage with me or us about this, please email us or start a new comment thread. Thanks.
What a cunning way to condescend
Once my lover, and now my friend
Right? Thanks for the 780 verbal score on my SATs, Fiona!
I was too young in the 90's (born in 89) to love Fiona. Which is weird, because I had an Alanis obsession. It was really more that my dad never bought Fiona Apple CD's, so I didn't listen to and memorize them in the car, or carry it into my teen years on my own.
That said, I'm only starting to go back and love her now, and it's an interesting backwards journey, that makes me wish I had done it earlier, but also is fully aware that I wouldn't have been able to handle her, so really it just makes me wish I was older when the 90's were around, cause although it was an amazing time to have a childhood, it would have been sweet for the next decade as well.
ALL OF THIS.
I was 14 when "Criminal" started playing on MTV. I used my infrequent and meager allowance to buy the CD - my first CD purchase. While I did my chores after school, I used to play it and sing along to every word at maximum volume (much to my little brother's chagrin).
I still know all the words and I still sing along to all those songs and they're still as moving as they were 15 years ago.