Not four, definitely five.
This was so lovely. Thank you!
All of this is great, including all the comments.
For better sleep and self-care, might I suggest reading. I think we're all big readers here, but really, get a book from the library, something that makes you happy (not necessarily something you think will "improve" you) and turn off all the screens and the noise and read. Screens tell your eyes it's still daytime. I can't think of anything more luxurious than saying, I'm going to turn off everything (not the lights, obv) and sit down and read this book for no other reason than because I LIKE IT. Pair with tea/coffee/wine/scotch as desired.
This is just fantastic.
@LilyB Wait, actually, I think the casket WAS open, because I seem to remember the comment being made that Grandma looked good, better than she did in her last few weeks alive, and Auntie wanted to remember her this way, looking peaceful.
Okay, so where does everybody stand on pictures at funerals? I don't mean "funeral selfies" and I don't mean nice pictures of everyone together outside the church, all dressed up. I had an aunt take a picture of a casket once. (It was closed, THANK GOD!) Same aunt asked me to put a video camera up to record a memorial service (no casket) for her not-in-attendance son, and I did (on a tripod, up on the balcony), but I didn't watch or keep a copy and I don't think I can do that ever again. I guess I feel like the memorial/funeral itself is something that happens there and then and doesn't need to be recorded in that way. But maybe I'm being weird about it.
Srsly? All I had to do in Illinois was have a copy of my divorce decree (from Washington) handy. There was no courtroom or anything. I got a new SS card, which helped me get a new drivers license and passport, and it was smooth sailing from there. I might have punched someone if they had asked me for a note from my ex. (Right, the bulletproof glass...)
Changing my name on certain bank accounts, on the other hand... I finally just closed them and opened new ones.
But yeah, I will never change my name again (I'm on my third one now that I'm remarried and I really do love it) and this is exactly why. It would have to really matter a lot--and clearly for some people it does--to go through all this nonsense.
My husband and I figured out a great way to store our sex tools--in a hard-side suitcase with a key. Found one for $5 at a garage sale. I keep the key in my jewelry box. It wouldn't stop a crack team of thieves, but it prevents someone from stumbling upon our stash. If someone finds the key and opens it up, they're getting what they asked for!
On How We Eat
Inspired by this post, I'm eating leftover chili with a fried egg on it for breakfast. I can validate pretty much anything for breakfast by plopping an egg on it.
That song is the CROWN JEWEL in my workout playlist! I laughed out loud when they all high-fived in the middle of it.
I remember when my attitude about rom-coms changed. It was right after I tried to break up with a boy and he sort of wouldn't be broken up with. Then I went to see Jerry Maguire and I was like ugh, sometimes when a girl breaks up with you she MEANS IT!
@Bunburying Second this! Cross-stitch is supremely satisfying and you can be up and running in 5 minutes. I like a simple pattern to start (monochrome, like these: http://www.pinterest.com/foldanddivide/monochrome-cross-stitch/). There are cool photorealistic patterns but they take FOREVER switching thread colors.
Just try it, I feel like you'll know very quickly whether you like it or not, and even if you buy a pattern and some supplies you'll only be out, like, $10.