Jumping in late in the conversation game here, but as a 44 year old woman, just don't worry about it all, at all, don't worry! I think when you don't worry if you are a woman or an adult, then there you are. You are in control, a woman (I've seen so many women over the years, and they are always in control of any situation), and who want's to be an adult anyway? You are perfect, just the way you are! Thanks, Billy Joel.