While I'm in agreement with the message of this post, and that it is tongue-in-cheek, please remember the culture women (and men) are saturated in. Of course women should feel comfortable asking their sexual partners, casual or otherwise, for what they want in bed. Of course it is b.s. that the NYT felt they needed to say (with an unfair sampling of only 600 students, I agree), that women are less-likely to have orgasms unless in committed relationships. However, we truly live in a culture where young women do not feel comfortable asking for what they want, and even if they do, masculinity seems to be so tenuous for many less-informed men, that when a woman does ask for something different, or another position, speed, what-have-you, it's met with derision and sometimes anger. If it is acknowledged by the male partner, it often still tends to be ignored because of male socialization. Ultimately, the NYT piece is kind of crap, but I'm not a big fan of this piece either.