On Short Lists
@bitzyboozer: I understood it as, she was talking to Ex 2, and Ex 2 told her that Ex 1 broke up with the woman he started dating immediately after her, but she can't feel bad about how quickly he met someone else because she, too, started dating quickly after the breakup, i.e. sleeping with Ex 2. At some point in there she and Ex 2 broke up and she got engaged to Fiance. Now she's wondering if Ex 2 knows Ex 1's business because Ex 2 is banging Ex 1's ex?
I think *I* need the bong hit. Relationships are hard for everyone, participants and observers alike.
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On Ask a Humanities Grad Student
Ah, I've always wanted to pitch "The Best Time I Dropped Out of My Humanities Ph.D. Program" to the Hairpin!
(Best decision of my adult life, FWIW, not that I've made a lot of adult decisions.)
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On Old Pictures, Clownish Makeup, and the Unexplained Breakup
Well, none of these letter-writers make me angry and this Dude gave tremendous answers. What am I going to do in the comments without righteous indignation?! Harumph.
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On Ask Santa
@YFN Dentonista@twitter : Moms have the best answers to those questions! I remember mine answering the "is he real" question by explaining that if you believe in Santa, he will come to your house and bring you presents, but if you don't believe in him, he won't, so your parents will have to buy them instead. I think that's such a perfect response.
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On The Girl Vodka
Marshmallow vodka + Godiva chocolate liqueur + crushed graham cracker rim? I'm asking for a friend.
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On Finance 101: Debit Cards, Weddings, and Peaceful New Careers
@parallel-lines : Yes, you beat me to some of these points! LW3, I'd add that the cool thing about yoga classes (which I'm sure you already know) is that a lot of them are offered at night or on the weekends, so you can go to teacher training and then start teaching yoga without having to quit your job first. I'm going to training this year, and it meets for a long weekend per month for seven months, so I'll only have to take seven days off of work. I have a number of friends who are yoga teachers and all but one work a second job (and the one who doesn't seems to have family money). So I encourage you to follow your dream but not ONLY follow your dream. If you want to revisit that decision later, you'll be more informed about how you could do so in a way that's emotionally, physically, and financially feasible.
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On Leave Johnny Depp Alone
@Tim Tracy : I have at least half a brain and thus understand that he meant it in a "colloquial manner." I still can, and do, object to the fact that there is a colloquial manner in which people use the word "rape" (and I'd dispute that it's really an accepted colloquialism at all).
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On Beauty Q&A: Chemical Peels, Jumpsuits, and WLHWT?
@winslow : My dermatologist gives me Vitamin A cream (tretinoin) for anti-aging purposes. Ask yours first, and if for some reason there's a problem you can always go specifically to a cosmetic dermatologist. (I personally don't think it's magic after five years of use, but maybe I'd look worse without it? We'll never know because I'm too brainwashed to stop.)
And Mldav2, retinol in beauty creams is more or less a weaker version of prescription-strength creams like Retin-A. I think at some point a beauty expert highlighted the differences (and did a better job than I am) on this site but I am too lazy to look.
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On Beauty Q&A: Chemical Peels, Jumpsuits, and WLHWT?
Jane, what percentage of TCA did you get done? Because that stuff is not for the casual peeler. I did one, I think it was 18%, and it turned my skin dark brown and dry like a mummy for two or three days before it all peeled off. I'd say the whole process took six days, three of which I had to stay in the house, and of course one of those days was filled with the panic that my skin would look that bad forever and omg why are you so vain that you voluntarily mutilated yourself?! My results were temporarily awesome: it zapped all the fine lines around my eyes, but that was mostly from the fact that the skin was too tight to move for a week so of course I couldn't have expression lines. They all came back. I also saw a mild improvement in the small dark spot on my cheek. I think some of these peels require a course of three peels to see real results (and you won't see many/any long-term results on lines you get from moving your face). My naysaying aside, I've seen pics of TCA just wiping out acne scars, so it does have its utility.
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On On Second Chances
@Gordon Bombay : Ooh, I can't wait to read it. I have boomeranged once before and been boomeranged by every other dude I've ever dated (save the one who's too recent to rule out). Not that my personal anecdote = evidence.