Here's the thing. No one here is saying that international adoption is always bad, or that many (most) of these kids don't end up with far more opportunities than they otherwise would. Of course a life with loving parents is better than life as an orphan, and in the vast majority of cases American parents are far better off than these kids would be in their birth countries. But that doesn't change that there are stories of kids being adopted internationally whose relatives did not knowingly consent to that. There are kids who end up abused and neglected and dead at the hands of their adopted parents. That's not better off. (I will point out that there are also abused, neglected, malnourished children born right here in the US waiting for someone to adopt them)
Every child should get a safe, loving home. What we're asking here is: how do we make sure that happens?
@Blushingflwr Yeah, I was thinking about that; the description of the forceful F made me think of the kind of breathing women often use during labor (which also helps in other kinds of pain processing)