@Oh, squiggles PREACH. Why does it never occur to these guys to ask advice from guys who actually score?
Oh, right. Those guys are "jerks," because "I'm a NICE GUY and women only like jerks!" Sure, pumpkin. Never had anything to do with your personal hygiene or your attitude or your expectations. ALWAYS been that you were too nice. Clearly you need a mentor who has a XXXXL "no fatties" t-shirt.
I wish I could hire the author and a time machine, and sic her on 60 percent of the people at my old office. Dang ol', dang ol', speaker phone, loud voice, loud laugh, personal desk radio on modern country hits without headphones, Bath and Body Works as a form of self-expression, I tell you whut.
@Blushingflwr In Utah it still comes in the form of "I'm JUST being HON-esttttttt, you ex-PECT me to de-NY who I ammmmmmm for yeeeeew?"
@mollpants Thanks. I was reminded of that one gay friend some of us had in high school. The one who went out of his way to point out how gross he thought women's bodies were, and sort of got off on making us feel hideous.
I mean, he basically brags about how fond of him she seems, then turns around and makes gaggy barfy gestures.
@Susanna Thanks for giving us a better lens into things! I'm kind of amazed how little I learned about the subject and her life, and how much, by contrast, I learned about the author.
I wondered about the "weak" correlation between benevolent sexism in men and their own sense of entitlement. I guess it's safe to assume that the really entitled men are more likely to favor hostile sexism?
@stalkingcat We're that obnoxious couple that never kills the bugs ourselves, but occasionally lets the cats kill certain ones (box elder bugs, moths). If it's a spider, we have a routine:
E AND D: (Screams)
MR: (Offstage) "What?"
E AND D: "Honey, can you come tell me what kind of spider this is?"
MR: (Offstage) "Oh, for pity's sake..."
[ENTER MR, WITH A JAR AND A STIFF PIECE OF JUNK MAIL TO TRAP THE SPIDER.]
@Megasus That's why the Good Lord made us taller and more muscular, on average! ...Oh, wait.
@enic Just skimmed it. All I want now is some wine. Of course, my perfectionism is limited to things like "not good enough at having a bottle of wine on hand" and "should be drinking this out of a Beaujolais glass but I don't have any."
@Elitist and Dull Oh, Ann's rebuttal, which I did actually read all the way through, is incredible.