On X-Files Red, Not Lohan Red: A Haircut Trauma

@commanderbanana OMG, right? I cannot look away from her. Plus the accent and the clothes! So chic. She's always been a favorite of mine, now more than ever.

Posted on June 19, 2014 at 2:58 pm 0

On X-Files Red, Not Lohan Red: A Haircut Trauma

@Ramonita The hairdresser sounded like someone I'd like to be friends with. So I didn't think it was mean spirited. But then again I was a huge Taylor Dayne fan!

Posted on June 19, 2014 at 2:57 pm 0

On Too Emotional, Too Sensitive, Too Much

I don't think men are judged less harshly for being emotional in public…in fact I might say the opposite is true. Men are expected to be stoic at all times, in all situations.
Imagine an adult man crying at his desk after a presentation goes horribly wrong. Imagine how harshly people would judge him.
I say this as a pretty emotional man, who was an extremely emotional child. It was hell. I couldn't even express sadness around my family, let alone my peers, teachers, etc. I think there are more emotional guys than one might think, they've just been hiding it longer.
Emotional expression, particularly of the sad sort, just makes people uncomfortable whether it's coming from women or men. People can still tell when I'm upset, I can't hide it that well, but I've learned to tone it down and even to joke about it…because in the end I don't want to make anyone uncomfortable, even if it means not fully expressing myself.

Posted on June 5, 2014 at 12:39 pm 0

On Hi Comma; Bye, Comma

@Onymous Can't get enough semicolons! I love punctuation too much. I overuse it.
I love punctuation too much; I overuse it.

Posted on April 29, 2014 at 3:56 pm 0

On "In the Dead Girl Show, the girl body is both a wellspring of and a target for sexual wickedness"

Can't wait to read this as I am both fascinated and repulsed by these shows. It's the mystery I love, the slow unwinding of characters and secrets. I hate that it's always a beautiful young girl, though. Men get murdered too, men have secret lives.

Posted on April 29, 2014 at 2:08 pm 2

On Interview with a Woman Who Recently Discovered She Loves Group Sex

@wryredhead Did we read the same piece? Sounds to me like she really enjoyed herself.

Posted on April 24, 2014 at 7:41 pm 2

On What It's Like to Live in Daytona Beach

Oh my god, this was beautiful. Danielle Wheeler, you are a talented writer. I can't wait to read your poetry!

Posted on April 10, 2014 at 1:23 pm 0

On Zadie Smith on Spring, Climate Change, Apocalypse

I always find it really…fascinating? confusing? frustrating?…when people speak of climate change and it's possible, probable, horrible effects on the environment and then couple that with "my daughter" or "my granddaughter".
If you really believe that climate change will wreak havoc on the planet, why would you put another person the planet to contribute to it and experience its difficulties and miseries? Cognitive dissonance lives.

Posted on April 4, 2014 at 2:45 pm 1

On The Heartland Pie

@Katni The Stacked Bob is everywhere. It's one of the few "Hairstyles" left … I mean, besides the Stacked Bob we've only got The Pixie. No other hairstyle even has a name because they are not hairstyles but just haircuts. Long layers is a description. Blunt bangs too, and it only describes the front. Shoulder length could be anything. The Shag is still around, but it's so difficult to pull off. A lot more people can pull off the Stacked Bob. I think that's why it's still around. Some people just want a Hairstyle. Personally I've always preferred a haircut to a Hairstyle, but I'm a minimalist.

Posted on March 20, 2014 at 5:07 pm 0

On Ask Baba Yaga: How Can I Tell the Difference Between Prestige and Personal Satisfaction?

@sjöhäxa My boyfriend went to law school for the challenge [partly and also because he wanted a stable career.] Now he's a law-school graduate with a huge law school debt and no job. Please listen to Up Cubed and work in the field before … everything she says is too true. Turning down the challenge of law school might be the best thing you ever did.

Posted on March 12, 2014 at 8:38 pm 0