@CaitlinRenee My apologies in assuming you were angry. Your message was strongly worded, which lead me to believe you were angry. But I did not decide you were a strict materialist, I said you seem to be, based on your what you wrote.
@JustTheTips I was just going to say that! I love long sleeve gowns. Strapless, UGH. Why? You might as well be wearing a bath towel.
I don't want to speak for catlinrenee here, so I'll just speak for me. I am not a strict materialist. I believe there's something more to existence than what our senses and intellect can detect. I don't know what that is and I don't believe I'll ever know…but I like thinking about it and hearing what other people think about it. That doesn't mean that I don't believe in science or lack skepticism. It just means that I've got an open mind, curiosity and imagination.
You seem to be a strict materialist. That's fine. No need to get angry when people don't believe exactly what you believe.
Finally, personally, I didn't feel the interview was conducted with "credulity", but rather with the same sort of respect granted to the other interviews with religious/spiritual people. I mean, do you believe in the Christian god? Were you disappointed that the interview with the Christian wasn't more critical of her faith?
@CaitlinRenee I love your comment, especially "there is much more to the universe than our limited animal-based perceptions allow." I think that is a difficult and scary thing for people to accept.
I'm also fascinated by the response to this story, especially in contrast to the generally positive responses the interviews with religious people have elicited. I mean, I find the Christian belief system to be completely bonkers, repressive, and close minded…while this woman's belief system seems fairly open minded, gentle and … well, she's created it herself, she's thought about everything and come up with her own explanations, which I find infinitely more admirable than accepting wholesale a system that was invented by nomadic sheep herders 2000+ years ago.
Moving to New York (way back in the 90s!) absolutely KILLED my creative drive. At the end of the day after the subway, my tedious desk job, the gym the subway again … all I wanted to do was drink, eat or sleep. Plus, everyone is an artist and everyone seemed better than me and when I was young I let that intimidate me.
Leaving was the best thing I ever did. It took me two years to start writing again, but it's happening. It's so much easier to balance life, work, creativity in other places. SO much easier!
@cmf406 So…how is this alternating between two house thing working out for you? I'm 42, have been with my BF for about a year and a half now. I really love my space, but he wants to move in together. Not anytime soon, maybe two years from now. But I really like having my own space! I can't imagine never being alone for an extended period.
Like…I love our weekends together, but when we part ways on Sunday night I'm so relieved to have my apartment to myself. I would really like to maintain separate residences.
Such great advice! Like the author I spent my 20s and 30s trying to figure out what was wrong with me or "working" on myself. I wish I could go back in time and shake some sense into myself. You meet someone when you meet someone and there's nothing you can do to make it happen faster.
But better yet: there's nothing you can do to prevent it either. I used to worry about saying the wrong thing, wearing the wrong thing, having the wrong haircut. WTF. None of that matters. So much wasted time!
Young single women: just enjoy yourselves and do whoever you want. You'll meet a partner when you meet her/him.
@Danzig! It took me reading the first comment to get the second part was "it girl" ! Maybe I'm just not the target audience? A book about a trans woman making her way in NYC would be of more interest to me than an "it girl" story...
@Danzig! Yeah, the first thing I though of, when looking at the title and the cover art, was that this book was about a trans woman in NYC. I think a lot of people will make that assumption.
@juksie Why do you hate it? Although this is a bit of an exaggeration, women's magazine editors will actually send feedback like this. It's funny because it's true.