On Like A Fox
"The patriarchy has affected women (specifically trans, queer and women of color) in the most heinous ways, but it’s also made men into emotionless creatures that cringe at the sight of their own frustrations."
Beautifully said and a very important point to make. Gender equality is not just about women. It's about all of us getting to be fully human. I think of my father and how he bottles up everything, the man can hardly even smile. It's fucking sad.
On Like A Fox
@grinnning It bothered me too. As all generalizations tend to bother me. However, it was the writer's feelings she was revealing. She wasn't saying white men are to be feared. She was saying she's afraid of white men. For good reason? To me it read a bit paranoid. But I'm not her.
@LooseBaggyMonster Thank you. I really love that book, so it pains me a bit that the writer got those facts wrong. But I can't blame her when none of the movies are faithful to the book. They all change one important thing or another.
This piece is interesting, but it would be a lot more gratifying if you actually wrote about your bad deeds, rather than just writing about writing about them...someday. The specific beats the general any day. So. More, please.
Wow, this is good. Very good. The confused tangle of thoughts...yeah, I can identify.
@CaitlinRenee I would love to read those captions! But, having been a women's magazine fashion caption writer once upon a time, I bet that Joan's lines sound exactly the same as everyone else's. The whole job is to make every story, every caption, every headline sound like it's coming from the same person. It's a thankless job ...
@Rookie (not the magazine) (not that there's anything wrong with that) I know the writer is saying whatever, thank god boots are in because remember when sandals were in for winter and michael kors said it made you look rich to wear sandals in winter because rich women are never in the elements, but now we can have warm feet because boots are in.
But that sentence! "Life before boots" ... like, what the middle ages? Roman times? The dawn of civilization? When were fucking boots invented?
@commanderbanana OMG, right? I cannot look away from her. Plus the accent and the clothes! So chic. She's always been a favorite of mine, now more than ever.
@Ramonita The hairdresser sounded like someone I'd like to be friends with. So I didn't think it was mean spirited. But then again I was a huge Taylor Dayne fan!
I don't think men are judged less harshly for being emotional in public…in fact I might say the opposite is true. Men are expected to be stoic at all times, in all situations.
Imagine an adult man crying at his desk after a presentation goes horribly wrong. Imagine how harshly people would judge him.
I say this as a pretty emotional man, who was an extremely emotional child. It was hell. I couldn't even express sadness around my family, let alone my peers, teachers, etc. I think there are more emotional guys than one might think, they've just been hiding it longer.
Emotional expression, particularly of the sad sort, just makes people uncomfortable whether it's coming from women or men. People can still tell when I'm upset, I can't hide it that well, but I've learned to tone it down and even to joke about it…because in the end I don't want to make anyone uncomfortable, even if it means not fully expressing myself.