On The "Do What You Love" Problem

@deathcabforcutes It can almost be the flipside of DWYL. I work for a union and my favorite thing about MY job is working with people whose jobs aren't very glamorous but who are like "this is my livelihood, I want to have dignity in what I do, and I'm willing to work to make it better." Whereas the DWYL ethos is that if your job isn't all dreamy then there's nothing to do but leave it behind.

Posted on January 15, 2014 at 4:38 pm 0

On [A Joke About Things Not Rising]

But if you never read novels in high school, you may miss out on the experience of re-reading the same novels years later and marveling at the sheer scale of the misunderstanding and loathing that you applied to these works at 16.

Posted on January 14, 2014 at 7:11 pm 3

On The Shark Has Pretty Teeth, Dear: Why I Teach Women Self-Defense

@Story #2 "it would be good to recognize it as a choice which is morally independent from the choice someone else made to assault you." <--yes! The rape-apologist line is "well, if it's EVER possible in ANY situation to defend yourself, then someone who could not defend herself was somehow complicit in her own assault." We should be responding to that by saying that that is 100% not logic, but instead we say, "let's avoid saying that it is ever possible to defend yourself." That's a foolproof way to not victim-blame, but it plays into the same assumption that's troubling us in the first place. (AND it's a frightening message, but those are just my own feelings.)

Posted on January 7, 2014 at 1:41 pm 2

On Are You a Grown Woman? An Informal Survey

I became an adult very suddenly this year in the middle of the sentence "I'll need an extra copy of that receipt for my expense report." There is no going back.

Posted on December 20, 2013 at 2:46 pm 1

On Realistic ModCloth Descriptions

Our "fake office wear dress" may look like it's ideal for work when it's floating on a white background on our website, but in reality the skirt is only six inches long and it has a weird cutout (not visible in photo)that will prevent you from wearing a bra. Perfect for your next halloween costume: "sexy employed person."

Posted on December 12, 2013 at 12:26 pm 10

On Friday Open Thread

@crane your neck Me! I was just posting on the Toast thread about how I'm newly friendless. And I haven't actually unpacked yet. And the list of things I need to buy to make my apartment functional is both endless and incalculably expensive. (am I commiserating too much? there's a lot on my mind.)

Posted on November 22, 2013 at 6:00 pm 0

On Which of the "Three Personality Regions" in America Fits You Best?

@bessmarvin Me too! I've lived my whole life in "friendly and conventional" territory and now I'm wondering if I've been bothering all these nice people.

Posted on October 23, 2013 at 3:25 pm 0

On What Is the Worst Possible Job for You?

@daisicles Ugh, I did that for a few months and it was hell. Like I spent every minute of every shift actively fighting the urge to just stand up and leave until I finally actually did. It's not that I don't like talking to people-- it's that you don't get one damned minute to just sit and breathe. As soon as you finish one call they connect you to the next and you have to start reading the script over again. Not a single moment for your own thoughts for hours and hours.

Posted on October 7, 2013 at 6:25 pm 0

On You Are Entitled to One Hour, Six Minutes, and 48 Seconds of Comfort

How come nobody told me this? I was under the impression that I was just buying ones that didn't fit or wasn't "walking in them right" when all along everyone has just been withstanding the same UNSPEAKABLE PAIN? Ugh fuck you guys.

Posted on June 11, 2013 at 10:55 am 15

On What Is a "Water Fountain"

@maybe partying will help I've always called it devil's rain, which I thought was reasonably common but I guess it didn't make the map.

Posted on June 6, 2013 at 8:33 pm 0