Heartbroken isn't me, but is. I'm taking the advice.
No man who vacuums will be single for long.
It's real! My gyno gave me the talk about the risks of clots before I went on the pill, which is the only reason I knew/had a terrible feeling of what was happening to me. I had just returned from a trip to the West Coast and my leg felt like I had pulled a muscle. The pain gradually got worse and I actually went in for an ultrasound for my leg to check for a DVT and it came back negative. Two weeks later I couldn't go up a flight of stairs or walk a block without seriously needing to stop to catch my breath. I'm a pretty active person, so I knew this was not right and not just sickness symptoms. Also the pain, preach. The pain in my leg was one thing, but there was a stabby pain on my side that corresponds to a lot like what Bekki was saying. Everytime I inhaled, felt like I was getting stabbed in my side - not exactly chest pain but like SIDE/lower lung pain. I never coughed up blood, but I did go to the ER where they found the "massive" clot in my leg which had dislodged and moved into my lung. Most blood clots start in your leg and end up in your heart or lungs. I'm so lucky I caught it. My friend's classmate in dental school was training for a marathon and rationalized away her symptoms, thinking the leg pain was a sports injury and her shortness of breath school related stress. She collapsed and died on campus.
I'm just now coming around to the various evils of birth control, but when it works it is the best. I'm a little sad to have to give it up.
@AmandaElsewhere And apparently my hate for it grew with time.
@MEGA VENUTIAN SPACE SCORPION
Agree, so much. I hated Little Bee. In fact, I hated it so much I wrote a Goodreads review on it, which I never do.
From 2011(when I read it):
I'm always a little wary of male authors who write first-person fiction novels from a woman's (in this case women's) point of view. I'm not saying it can't be done, but I think that's where Little Bee falls flat. That said, I understand what Chris Cleave was trying to write and I didn't altogether hate this book. Unfortunately, it was riddled with too many plot inconsistencies and cliches, which bogged down the inner thoughts of two women characters central to this "magical" tale. Yes, I know that there are a lot of monkeys and jungles in Africa, and yes, I know that morning commutes in London must be hectic. What I don't know is why so many bad decisions were made by women in this book.
@districter You will know. When you are asking yourself this question: "if this is a pulled muscle then how come I can't breathe without crying?"
True fact my birth control almost killed me last month, so I'm back to late period paranoia, which for me is almost 100% dreading/planning/googling how to get an abortion. Hooray.
To all the ladies on birth control: That blood clotting risk is 100% real and I am thank god alive to tell you all about it. Never ignore leg pain after a long trip and for christsake take yourself to the ER if you are short of breath.
@gnar I just think it's so interesting that he identifies as both the murderer and in the NY Mag piece as the victim. I just don't understand why no one has stuck their neck out to say "hey let's talk about why this culture of fear exists."
This isn't the first time Questlove has gotten vocal about a racially driven crime: http://www.citypaper.net/blogs/criticalmass/uestlove_on_donte_johnson.html
Three years ago in Philadelphia, a young woman was raped and killed on her way home from work, stripped naked and left for dead in an abandoned lot in a trendy neighborhood. As a young woman also living in Philly, I can attest it was a VERY SCARY time, and really the only thing anyone would talk about. I remember reading Questlove's (he is also from Philly) response (linked above) and feeling floored.
But this kind of think also begs so many questions. It's almost self-referential to the Trayvon murder.
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