On Self-Care, in Theory and Practice

@shalalas Way late to this conversation, but I agree that the focus on products was sort of odd to me. This is probably because my definition of self-care is about 1% related to stuff I put on my face and 99% related to, well, basically everything else. Self care for me is about taking care of my brain and body as a package, the foundations of which are: getting enough sleep, getting some exercise and feeding myself good, healthy food. The next tier is usually making sure my living space is clean and organized, getting out and being social with people, and setting aside some pure brain-recharge goofing off time (typically in the form of romance novels). If all that's in place, I'm usually a pretty happy human who might, say, buy a new moisturizer because it feels nice- but if I don't lay the foundations first, there's not a facial product out there that's going to help me practice self-care.

Posted on November 16, 2014 at 1:00 pm 1

On How to Take Advantage of Rhubarb Season

Rhubarb and tequila seems like a promising concept...

Posted on April 24, 2014 at 10:05 pm 0

On What Goes With Spring Landscaping?

It's almost Vinho Verde season! Any recommendations? The last recommendation I received was "the one with the crab on it," which actually was pretty good.

Posted on April 1, 2014 at 11:32 pm 0

On Friday Open Thread

@jazzloon Start doing judo? Or some other martial art/ activity/ class/ thing, but I can state from personal experience that knowing how to throw people does make you feel like a badass.

Picking up and moving across the country is also good times, but maybe wait until spring on that one?

Posted on February 22, 2014 at 12:25 am 0

On Friday Open Thread

@up cubed This is more of a general rule than a specific observation on the Mazda 3, but typically "touring" will be more comfortable day-to-day than "sport"- sport is tuned for responsiveness, which is great for driving around corners fast but not so awesome for, say, sitting in rush hour traffic.

I test drove the touring version of the Mazda and it seemed pretty good?

Posted on February 15, 2014 at 9:50 pm 0

On Friday Open Thread

@coolallison Honestly, my weekday reading is the internet and romances. Romances are great for getting your brain to turn off after work, and they press the same buttons as sitcoms. But you're actually putting words in front of your eyeballs, and honestly some (especially some of the historicals) are pretty well researched and interesting. Or hilariously awful.

Smart Bitches, Trashy Books is a great starting point. They also regularly post deals for romance and non-romance books (usually e-books). I like Katie MacAllister and Courtney Milan because they are funny and have excellent female protagonists.

Posted on February 7, 2014 at 11:20 pm 1

On The Fantasy Sochi Pie

Is applying mascara without opening your mouth in an O shape even possible?

Posted on February 6, 2014 at 7:52 pm 1

On Humans Strike Back, Create Peanut Butter and Jellyfish

@adorable-eggplant Sadly, until this quote, I totally did not process the peanut butter and jellyfish hilarity of this entire idea. Don't mind me, just completely missing the point over here...

Although I was totally on board with feeding jellyfish random things just because.

Posted on January 29, 2014 at 10:41 pm 1

On It's All In Your Head: A Conversation About Being Sick Without a Diagnosis

I have no medical stories to share, but I really enjoyed this.

Posted on January 29, 2014 at 10:36 pm 0

On Friday Open Thread

@Miss Maszkerádi Not to be all trite and whatnot, but life is long and contains very few real deadlines. There is no rule that says you have to have your shit sorted out by 25 or 45 or 95, may we all live that long.

Grad school- is generally terrible, even when you are in a program you enjoy. For me it was the whole "not actually real life thing" coupled with the "costing so damn much." How much relevance will your final GPA have to your future goals? If the answer is none (which it commonly is, if you're not planning on additional academic work or one of the, like, 3 fields where your employer might care), I highly recommend only sinking time into a) what you absolutely have to get done to graduate and b) things you are genuinely interested in learning or think will be useful in your future career. The rest is probably not worth your time. Get some sleep/ exercise/ outside air instead.

As a corollary- I highly recommend spending time with people who are not in grad school. Knitting groups, sports, whatever- get off campus and especially away from the people in your program. People who are not in grad school tend to not think like grad students, and that can help in a "there is life beyond grad school" kind of way.

This last thing- this is hard, but...try to think about dating as "meeting new and possibly interesting people" rather than as a thing you have to do in order to be in a relationship. Relationships take two people, and you only have control over you. Now, finishing grad school (mostly because free time), working towards your goals, being a happier you? That puts you in a better spot to be in a relationship, but there's no way to make one happen, other than working at meeting new and interesting people and appreciating them as themselves rather than as "potential future boyfriend"

The spring is just around the corner, and will be here sooner than you think. You'll be out here in the non-grad school world with the rest of us in no time. It's nice here- sometimes there are weekends. Weekends are awesome.

Posted on January 25, 2014 at 4:13 pm 2