We have this way, as a culture, of presenting celebrity breakdowns as entertainment, instead of as the very real suffering of a fellow human being.
Jia, I always love your interviews! And I love how the Hairpin values the stories of "normal" women (and men), not just celebrities.
@Salsify In fairness, I'd be willing to bet that there's not really a safety net for elderly monks either. Priests have always ranked higher and gotten more from the Church.
@Onymous Also, there's a difference between the way that nuns display their religious devotion and the way that priests and ministers do. Not everyone who feels a pull towards a life of prayer and contemplation is necessarily cut out for public speaking, counseling and management.
There are times that becoming a nun seems like it would be nice, but I'm not Catholic and I like sex too much.
@harebell You could make an argument (not a great one, but an argument) that in writing about it she could be seen as promoting that choice and also behaving in a manner that is not appropriate. If someone had found out about it without her writing about it, then yes, part of her past, but the writing about it made it part of her present.
I agree, I don't think she should have been fired, and I also think people should be able to tell their stories without fearing unemployment, but I think the proponents of her firing are coming from a position that she was promoting her choices as being good ones.
@squishycat Yeah. There is something to be said for being able to make something that you couldn't find in a store, which is also the reason I want to learn to sew. And of course custom-making a gift for someone is a great way to show affection that might not be conveyed by the equivalent store-bought item, but from a practical perspective, anything that I'm going to need multiples of is something I'm probably not making myself (I'll make scarves and winter hats, because I only need one for the season, and there's a shawl on the back of my office chair right now, but I wouldn't want to have to replace my sock inventory with things I made by hand, and I only wear socks if I have to).
@carolita Yeah, often it is cheaper to make certain things from scratch, depending on what it is. But it isn't necessarily, and it is often more time/labor intensive. Which comes to an intersectionality thing - some people can afford to opt out of the commercially prepared foods and make something that is ultimately less expensive and healthier, and other people don't have the time/space/energy to do that (or sometimes the money for the upfront expense if it's something like buying a canner).
But instead of lobbying for changes, we're just opting out, and leaving the people who can't opt out to fend for themselves, which I think is part of the author's point. (Which is not to say you shouldn't keep making/eating your own pickles).
@karenb Yes, people always comment on how patient I must be; they don't realize that often my fiberwork is a result of being IMPATIENT - I need something to keep my hands busy while I sit through this training or ride the Metro or watch TV.
@leon s I am a pretty decent crocheter, I've made some nice stuff that I'm pretty proud of. But I also see all the flaws in it. So when people gush, on the one hand I'm really flattered and pleased, but on the other hand I'm really uncomfortable and I tend to downplay it with "all I did was follow the pattern".
As far as invested money, good quality yarn costs a lot of money. You can easily spend $100s on yarn and other supplies for knitting/crocheting.
I'd rather make pillow shams and blankets; I don't like getting my hands dirty.
[As for the dream of fulltime homemaking - how do you feel about polyamory? Because I've got an opening for a homemaker but you'd have to share... ;)]
@Takoroft Well, yes, the ending is problematic although it is also in keeping with the way we expect those kind of narratives to end. Though it would be nice if "single" and "happily ever after" weren't viewed as mutually exclusive.
But the ending doesn't negate anything that was good about it (I mean, the ending of Battlestar Galactica is terrible, doesn't mean the whole show was).
My big thing is, you don't hear people making the same kinds of judgements about something that was largely popular with male audiences the way they do about SatC, even though certainly there are many shows that have been incredibly popular while they were on while also being shallow and problematic.