@mlle.gateau The first book ends with Salander rescuing what's-his-face from the evil Nazi brother, in fact. And there's a brief moment in the book, but I believe not in either movie, where evil Nazi brother attempts to sexually assault what's-his-face. Larsson doesn't spend a lot of time on it, but I think it's an efficient demonstration of the idea that rape is about power, not sex.
Given that Larsson wrote the novels for his own enjoyment and died before they were published, I'm a little more willing to let him off the hook for the obvious middle-aged dude wish fulfillment aspects of the plot. I'm sure we would all like to fall in love with a beautiful, mysterious stranger; many of us might choose to express that a little differently in a work intended for publication than in our own journals or other private writings.
@Divert Here are a couple of reasons why women don't buy sex:
1.) No scarcity. Plenty of dudes giving it away for free, so no need to purchase it. Historically, this hasn't been the case for women and sex -- women's sexuality has been much more closely regulated by legal, religious, and social systems.
2.) Social pressure. Men who buy sexual services from women (or men) may get a little side eye, but women who do so will be seen as pathetic, unfuckable, etc. Women may chose to forgo purchasing sex rather than risk the social consequences of doing so.
3.) Safety. Many women would not feel physically safe purchasing sexual services from a stranger, especially since the transaction generally takes place privately.
4.) Risk. Related to points 2 and 3, women generally assume more risk from a sexual encounter, including the risk of pregnancy, STDs (receptive partners are at higher risk for HIV, for example), loss of social standing.
You'll note these are all, essentially, market conditions, not qualities inherent to women. Market conditions can change; women could become 50% of the consumers of sexual services. (I would guess that women consume pornography, which for the most part avoids these issues, in much greater numbers than we consume "in-person" sexual services such as escorts, strip clubs, massage parlors, etc.)
In economic terms, in the marketplace for sexual services, women and men are not substitute goods for the vast majority of customers (some bisexual men being the exception, perhaps.) That is, if the price of buying sexual services from a woman increases, consumers will not simply shift their consumption to buying sexual services from men. Men cannot enter this market in large numbers because there's little to no demand for their services.
@klemay there are plenty of men in sex work, it's just that their clients are men. I suspect this is an issue of demand, not supply. Women and men, both selling sexual services, cannot substitute for one another, because the client will tend to prefer one or the other based on his sexual orientation. Men literally cannot crowd women out of this market because the demand is not there for them, by nature of them being men.
On Talking to Heather Doney and Rachel Coleman About Child Abuse, the Quiverfull Movement and Homeschooling Policy Reform
Fascinating interview. Not sure I've read anything here, or elsewhere, that convinces me that homeschooling should be legal in anything other than extreme circumstances (a family that lives in the literal middle of nowhere being the obvious example) though.
I mean, there is a reason why there are certain qualifications you have to meet to be a teacher. It's an actual learned set of skills, and to think that the average mom and dad can do it without training is just absurd.
(and yes, I recognize that public schools have their problems, some more than others, which is why I'm reluctantly okay with homeschooling, at least in theory.)
I just... think this campaign is so boneheaded. How exactly does dancing turn into measurable change? By all means, dance if it makes you feel good, don't let me stand in your way, but let's not kid ourselves about this.
Also, to expand upon a point the author raised, Ensler did not take it well, to put it mildly, when it was pointed out to her that indigenous women in Canada have been marching in support of MMIW (missing and murdered indigenous women) on 2/14 for years now: http://chiefelk.tumblr.com/post/49527456060/an-open-letter-to-eve-ensler
In short, go home, Eve Ensler, you're drunk.
@Rookie (not the magazine) (not that there's anything wrong with that) I would say probably you can redeem points without buying anything? I've never done that, but I have redeemed a free perfume certificate thinger, without buying anything, without issue.
I use the smashbox primer pretty regularly, and it's a solid product. It's the only primer I've used, though, so no idea how it compares.
cackling SO HARD at this.
@coolallison ok, this is my wheelhouse. I'm gonna throw out some suggestions of books that I've found compulsively readable. If anything looks particularly good to you and you want more recommendations in that vein, just let me know.
Mysteries -- if you haven't read it, you simply must read The Secret History by Donna Tartt. (Her two later books are good too, but start with TSH.) Male protagonist, which, eh, but holy crap it is impossible to put this book down.
If you like urban fantasy (that's basically fantasy without swords and castles) you might like Dark Currents and Autumn Bones by Jacqueline Carey. Female protagonist who is part demon who lives in a small town and... crazy shit happens, basically. The writing is very witty.
Jacqueline Carey also wrote a series of alternate histories that feature a female protagonist who is a courtesan in an alternate history France and... you know, I'm really not sure how to explain these books. More here: http://www.sfsite.com/08a/kd109.htm. Try the first one, and if you like it, there are like 8 more to read.
Another good alternate history series is Jo Walton's Small Change series, the first book of which is called Farthing. It's a murder mystery set within an alternate history in which the UK made peace with Nazi Germany in the early 1940s and starts to slide into fascism.
As @OhMarie mentions, The Hunger Games series is ridiculously addictive. If you like YA, I would add two other dystopian series: The City of Ember series by Jeanne Duprau and the Moon Crash series by Susan Beth Pfeffer, which begins with the book Life as we Knew It.
I have always found Jean Auel's Clan of the Cave Bear series ridiculously hard to put down, with the exception of the last book, which sucks.
If you are looking for something funny or lighthearted, you might try books by Christopher Moore or Tom Perrotta. Or, of course, David Sedaris.
If you specifically want to read about women, you might want to widen your search to biographies, autobiographies, and memoir.
Finally, a couple of books that, for whatever reason, I found utterly compelling:
What I Loved by Siri Hustvedt
Affliction by Russell Banks
Atonement by Ian McEwan
World Made by Hand by James Howard Kunstler
In terms of how to find good books, best thing is to have a friend who knows your taste very well and can recommend things (bonus points if that friend works at a bookstore.) Amazon's recommendation engine is... okay, not great. Goodreads can give you leads on must reads in your preferred genres. Bookish.com is supposed to be a pretty sophisticated book recommendation engine; I've had mixed results but might work for you. Finally, go to a bookstore and ask them to recommend something! Tell them "I really liked X, can you recommend something similar" and I bet you'll walk out with something good.
Hope this helps!
@yrouttasight this is the correct approach.
[Wherever the game is located,] the actual number of traffickers investigated or prosecuted hovers around zero.
Given the ridiculously low rate at which these crimes are normally investigated and prosecuted, this means basically nothing.
(Disclaimer: it may be true that the "super bowl leads to trafficking" thing is bs. It certainly could be. But this evidence isn't convincing to me.)