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Ask Baba Yaga: I've Been Single for 9 Years & I Feel Like I'm Missing All the Boats

Dear Baba Yaga,

I'm 33 years old, and I have been single for almost NINE YEARS. I haven't been unhappy! Or at least only sort of. But I feel like I'm hiding from life in my endless single-ness. I think I could be happy in a relationship, but I haven't even really tried. I haven't really sought out, or stumbled on, anything. Everywhere I look, friends are getting married and having babies. I feel like I'm missing the boat. I feel like I'm missing all the boats! What should I do? Should I force myself to "get out there?" Should I accept myself as-is? Love feels so distant, and alien and unfathomable to me now. READ MORE

Ask Baba Yaga: Is Intuition A Thing?

Dear Baba Yaga,

Is intuition a thing? There are so many voices in my mind and they speak with a similar authority.

BABA YAGA:

Voices are ; noise, humanly noise–but what knows best in you is not of human shape or sound but of a stranger, Wilder beast. )Now it turns in your stomach, now it rends yr chest. Tell the voices to shut up & listen for the growl.

Previously:: "How Can I Quit Worrying About Finding Someone And Just Let It Happen?"

Taisia Kitaiskaia is a poet, writer, and Michener Center for Writers fellow. She's taking questions on behalf of Baba Yaga at AskBabaYaga@gmail.com.

Ask Baba Yaga: How Can I Quit Worrying About Finding Someone and Just Let It Happen?

Dear Baba Yaga,

I find myself happy in most areas of my life (professionally, intellectually, socially).  However, as I've tiptoed into my thirties, I've become increasingly anxious about finding a mate. It's distracting me from my otherwise quite pleasant existence. How can I quit worrying about it, and let it happen when it happens?

BABA YAGA:

a foul wind follows the craving of minds after the seeking.( It is made such that you'll always be wanting this, if indeed it is something you want. ;Why are you asking for the pain to be taken wholesome from yr life, if most is well & only one lacking? There's always something) making clicks & clacks behind us, pushing us forward with a somewhat fear. No one's road is silent.

Previously: "I'm Hiding in Whiskey, Where Has My Spine Gone?"

Taisia Kitaiskaia is a poet, writer, and Michener Center for Writers fellow. She's taking questions on behalf of Baba Yaga at AskBabaYaga@gmail.com.

Ask Baba Yaga: I'm Hiding in Whiskey, Where Has My Spine Gone?

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Dear Baba,

I have lost all my power and no longer recognize myself. I hide in whiskey and distract myself with men. I am limp, hollow, and disoriented. How do I restore my spirit? Where has my spine gone?

BABA YAGA:

The beaches of this earth are littered with spines , abandoned;.  )but no matter how many Whiskeys you do pour on yr wave-beaten backbone, it will not erode.but remain yrs.  : Go & pick it up & lash it to you, for sometimes you must be brash & fiendly to wear what is yrs, & in that violence it too will claim you.

Previously: "Am I Actually Better Than Everyone Else, Or Just Arrogant?"

Taisia Kitaiskaia is a poet, writer, and Michener Center for Writers fellow. She's taking questions on behalf of Baba Yaga at AskBabaYaga@gmail.com.

Ask Baba Yaga: Am I Actually Better Than Everyone Else or Just Extremely Arrogant?

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Ask Baba Yaga: How Can I Tell the Difference Between Prestige and Personal Satisfaction?

Dear Baba Yaga,

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Ask Baba Yaga: How Do I Keep From Dwelling on the Love I Haven't Had?

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Dear Baba Yaga,

I'm overwhelmed by a sense of loss for the relationships I haven't had.  Due to various circumstances, I've had very long periods of being alone.  Up until recently, I was seeing someone (the first in a long time) who moved on from me to another person like it was the simplest thing in the world.  Not only am I jealous of the ease with which he establishes romantic connections, but being with him showed me what I've been missing out on–sex, emotional intimacy–and I can't shake my sadness at the fact that this huge thing has been missing from my life.  I know I need to make some changes going forward, but how do I keep from dwelling on the love I haven't had?

BABA YAGA:

The life of every being has , some vast emptiness in it. Unspeakable, grievous. ;There is a field in the middle of my wood where no one goes. It is the heart of my loneliness. I go there to dance & be quiet. & I love the intensity of its silence. If I were human I would wish to take another there. You must know every contour of yr emptiness before you can know who you wish to invite in.

Previously: "Are People Judging Me Because I'm Single and Childless?"

Taisia Kitaiskaia is a poet, writer, and Michener Center for Writers fellow. She's taking questions on behalf of Baba Yaga at AskBabaYaga@gmail.com.

Ask Baba Yaga: Are People Judging Me Because I'm Single and Childless?

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Dear Baba Yaga,

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Ask Baba Yaga: Where Does All the Time Go?

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Dear Baba Yaga,

Do I spend all my free time this year planning a masquerade ball or writing essays and applying to grad school? Where does all of the time go? Is there a spell to make time slower? I already tried the whole dancing in the moonlight naked thing but all it gave me was a terrible hangover (and, to be fair, a temporarily warped sense of time).

BABA YAGA:

)Time in Eternity is boring—suchly do I have so many mischiefs. –Chop off yr head & put it in a stew-pot; then you will have eternity to lap at, & you will sicken of the taste., Elsewise , love how the planets do their moonlight dance for you in yr pithly hundred years, & smack the moon on the rump to show it who is the Boss-woman. Never will the Boss-woman quite be you (that is my mostly occupation) but you can have the longest laugh for you have the shortest earthly being. :Goodnight & wake up earliest tomorrow for the fantasy of seizing the sunbeams.(

Previously: "I Know I'm Lashing Out and I Can't Stop"

Taisia Kitaiskaia is a poet, writer, and Michener Center for Writers fellow. She's taking questions on behalf of Baba Yaga at AskBabaYaga@gmail.com.

Ask Baba Yaga: I Know I'm Lashing Out and I Can't Stop, It Feels Too Good

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