@mayonegg guns hi'en under our pe'icoats
I believe I can now refer to my crowd in high school as 'the cast of Glee'
@mayonegg Young Life is SO upper-middle class -- why is that?
I hope I am not the only reader of The Hairpin with a high school tribe unironically called "The Hicks"
@CinnamonSwirls I gagged a little when she said yes to ketchup.
Although I can't help but feel a little mad that this radically invasive surgery is the best modern medicine can offer for women in her genetic situation (I have a sneaking suspicion that if testicular cancer was similar, all those male doctors would have come up with an alternative to castration for themselves by now), she fucking rules for putting this out there. I feel like a million male gazes just short circuited and blew up.
By Sunny Schomaker@twitter on "The tragedy of Obama's presidency is that he's too much of a Ravenclaw and not enough of a Gryffindor."
@hallelujah Yes. Evidence: ask Chicago.
@mayonegg I used to be the guy who didn't make a lot of money when I got married. My wife gave me a chance and supported me as I corrected the situation by going back to school.
If you are thinking long term, you have to ask if they guy can be a good partner in your life in achieving your goals? With they be an asset in raising children and providing for them?
If that is what you want, and that is not what they are...dump him.
By LydiaBennett on Scrub?
@mayonegg But also ask yourself as a follow up to the "can I support him financially, do I want to, how would that make me feel" question, "how does it make HIM feel?" Because I once was fine with and capable of supporting a partner but it made him nasty. Like he couldn't handle that I was taking care of the finances and housework and everything else and he got really really mean. I finally broke up with him, bought him out of the lease and all of the furniture and sent him to go be mean to someone else.
Maybe this flies in the face of all of the work women have done towards equality, but if you take the breadwinner role away from your man, beware the consequences. They don't take it well.
By hedgehogerie on Scrub?
Not digging this response (or lack of?) but the comments here have a lot of great insight. I used to think love is all we need but after becoming An Adult (aka graduating college) and having many friends in your exact same situation I've realized money is important. And by money I really mean the things that will yield money: ambition, practical knowledge, common sense, and so forth.
Frankly, not having a bank account is setting off alarm bells. How is he supposed to deposit his checks? Is he going to ask you to do this (DO. NOT. DO. THIS.)? Does he have loans of any kind, if so I assume on his parent's accounts? He must not have any credit cards, right? Think about it: depending on where you live (I'm in CA Bay Area) you might not be able to rent a place together due to credit checks (he will have no credit). He has no experience with organizing a savings or checking account. He (I assume due to lack of account) has never had to organize money or pay bills of any kind, or set up cable/phone/power service. This will probably cause some awkward/terrible power struggles if you wind up handling his money and/or being able to make the call for anything that costs money (putting your name on power bills, deciding if you can go to your mutual friend's bday dinner if your bf can't pay, etc).
What happens when he injures himself with no insurance? Because you are together, he's going to, even the tiniest most microscopic part of him, expect you help out. Even if this means driving him to and from a doctor, paying for some drinks & dinner (and another, and another) while he's low on cash and paying off his hospital bills.
I'm not trying to be judgey in this long-winded statement, but this is the situation a dear friend was in EXACTLY, doing the exact same things that I mentioned above (incl hospital visits, rent, checks, etc.). You will find someone who makes you feel fantastically wonderful who has a bank account and health insurance. I promise you.