On Two Photo Sets: Burning Man and Underwater People

@stonefruit amen. Whenever I have a freak out that goes, "oh noooo, I am burning up my youth in a cubicle!!!" I look at a photo of burning man and go, "ahhhh yes...there are always worse fates." Then I affectionately pat my stapler and get back to my spreadsheets humming contentedly.

Posted on September 4, 2013 at 3:50 pm 0

On Ask a Glutton: When Your Food Groups Are Cheese, Chocolate, and Coffee

When a friend of ours had a baby we made them turkey meatloaf stuffed bell peppers, and they turned out great. Proportion wise, you could probably freeze them individually, and then heat up a few at a time, so that would be helpful. Packet of ground turkey, 2 eggs, scoop of oatmeal or breadcrumbs, splash of milk if you like it, salt and pepper, diced onions and anything else you like- I often put in roasted mushroom slices, scallions, and the tops of the bell peppers. Once you have your meat mixture you just shove it into a bell pepper that has the top removed and bake in the oven at 375 for a long time until its all cooked (40 minutes+?)you can get maybe 6 stuffed peppers with the meat mixture, if they aren't huge peppers, and you could always scale up to 9- 12 if you wanted to freeze a huge pile. One pepper by itself is a meal, but a half pepper plus sides also works well.

I really love my Joy of Cooking- I think it's the 8th edition? Not sure. Its great. I'm a good cook, so I tend to hit this up more for techniques or cooking times. Its jam packed with diagrams advice, recipes and info. I also have the Stonewall Kitchen Harvest, which gives me modern spins on all my old timey new england favorites, plus big inspiring pictures. I gave my mom the Smitten Kitchen Cookbook for christmas and it's been a big hit.

Posted on September 3, 2013 at 2:31 pm 1

On "Men In Cat T-Shirts," to the Tune of "Nights in White Satin"

I recently bought my feller this shirt for a festival: Kittens!

Posted on August 27, 2013 at 2:27 pm 1

On "Of course Neil Gaiman uses a fountain pen."

@Megasus I like his books, and you know, he can do whatever, he's a wildly successful person with talent and it seems to be working....but he is absolutely too precious for words. Don't get me started on his wife either.

Posted on August 21, 2013 at 1:14 pm 4


@Judith Slutler Sometimes a leg is just a leg (that looks like a hot dog).

Posted on August 19, 2013 at 8:11 pm 0

On "At what other moment in history would it have been plausible for a serial killer to identify middle-aged white men as his most vulnerable targets?"

@Megasus Such shoehorning! Oh Hannah Rosin, I like you as a person, but I hate you as only I can hate Atlantic article clickbait about pseudo social issues. The decline of men is also the rise of involved men's parenting, and I'm going to prove this with the one scientific case study of a murderer's victims? Oh rly? Ok, suuuree.

Posted on August 19, 2013 at 2:13 pm 0

On A Chat with Mikki Kendall and Flavia Dzodan About #SolidarityIsForWhiteWomen

My mom works for non profits and she told me how she'll get into some meeting to help the board brainstorm about new members and they'll be like, "how about a lawyer, how about a business owners, etc" and she'll be like, "how about someone who isn't white?" and then she usually has a list of names of people she's met who she thinks would be good. And she said, "it just never occurs to people to ask. if you ask them they won't feel like they're excluding anyone, but since they're going to reach out to the people they know well, they won't end up reaching out to anyone from other groups." So she tries to actively curate names of people who she thinks would be awesome on boards, and have that alternate list, and its been going pretty well- I get the sense that that invitation has started to create some more integrated boards.

And I think that's what needs to happen online. Your Jessica Valenti's and whomevers when they get a phone call to write about Trayvon should say, "That's a great idea for a piece, I know a woman who is perfect for this topic, let me call her and introduce you." The hairpin should be like, "we want another comic strip. Lets go looking for a comic strip by a black woman and see if she wants to come on board." This would require willingness to share pieces of a pie that isn't huge, and I think that's where a lot of it comes in. There's a default to lazy atlantic article feminism like Jia said and there's a territorial aspect (much less so here on the hairpin than in other places!)- if you are trying to launch your career its not like you want to give up any paid gig even if you hear that tiny voice saying your voice isn't the one that should be speaking.

Posted on August 17, 2013 at 12:56 pm 5

On The Burglar Wore a Straw Fedora: An Illustrated Guide to My Missing Stuff

Did he load the heavier stuff into a car before you chased him away? Was he making multiple trips? How creepy!

Posted on July 23, 2013 at 2:15 pm 2

On "Trayvon Martin and I Ain't Shit"

@franceschances- when I read the Questlove thing I was thinking how its crazy terrible for them both in that situation. Women and black men are coming at it from the opposite side but it results in the same aspect of being really really careful and constrained with how you are in public.

Posted on July 17, 2013 at 2:03 pm 0

On What Is Your Personal Garbage Music?

@Faintly Macabre That is a good friend. My boyfriend and I have a biannual conversation that goes something like, "I don't get how you can possibly enjoy this, its like the worst music. Worser than Justin Bieber, because at least Bieber knows he's in it to be a dirty whore, there's something pure about that I can respect. This woman thinks she's art when shes just the worst ever." and then he counters with, "I don't understand why you don't get the most deep soulful beautiful pure example of music and life, its like you are missing part of your soul, maybe you will never understand me." and then I say something along the lines of, "yes I do, you want to bone a ren-faire girl with a harp who has a pretend deep soul. Sorry I like beyonce more." And then he sighs at my hard heart and goes off singing his joanna songs quietly to himself, while weeping, and I stomp off and find a rare fern growing quietly in a grove to crush under my plastic flip flop.

Posted on July 2, 2013 at 8:02 pm 9