On Interview with Filmmaker Izzy Chan: "Have we adjusted our expectations of what a man needs to bring to the table?"
@City_Dater I keep trying to write this reply and timing out because I'm not expressing it well. I think women do sometimes need to adjust expectations, and I'm as feminist as they come. Precisely because women are socialized to take so much responsibility for the state of relationships, houses and children, I think it can also turn into a need to be in control and setting a high bar, and that isn't inherently bad or good.
The women I know, and I'm including myself here, we extrapolate. A sock on the floor isn't just a sock on the floor. It's a whole symptom to diagnose a problem with. And I know good guys who are my friends and whose wives are my friend and the wives are really hard on them about chores, and I don't feel bad that they need to do the chores, but I do feel bad when one gets called out in a way that's mean or unfair.
Knowing that the world is out to screw you and that your partner never even has to worry about it, it messes with you and if you take it out on the partner in unwritten expectations as house manager it can be bad.
@dham The other one they don't tell you about is the mid to late 20s haywire phase, when a period that was predictable from age 14-25 suddenly goes NUTS and does some crazy stuff and changes dates and behavior. No one told me that would happen and then when I talked about it a lot of friends suddenly said, "oh yeah, me too!" Is it a thing? I don't know, no one ever told me it might be a thing, but anecdotally, at least several close friends have had some kind of disruption around age 26 or so.
On Louis C.K. on Conan: "Life is tremendously sad, and that's why 100% of people who are driving are texting"
There's something about the ouroboros of Louis C.K. talking about the failures of modern technology in short soundbites that are pulled up on iphones and then eagerly shared with people during a time when we could all just be mellowing out over pre-dinner wine and music... I don't know if there's a word to express how he is created and destroyed endlessly by the soundbite sharing technology and crabby modern people from whence come his keen observations.
But basically I think it boils down to Louis, just make a quilt or whittle something and you will feel better. Same for everyone who feels compelled to email or facebook this link to me.
Jesus, ""This is a bad analogy, but it's sort of like selling a used car," Gary Barnes says of why he and his wife weren't told more. "If you tell someone it breaks down every day, nobody's going to buy it.""
A CAR IS NOT A CHILD. A CHILD IS NOT AN OBJECT.
AUGH! People who DUMP THEIR CHILDREN like they are unwanted puppies should be on the same kind of registry as sex offenders. "Oh ma'am I see you left your adopted child at a rest stop with a mentally unwell woman who collects children, and you found her online through a yahoo chat group? Oh well then, I'm afraid I can't rent this house/give you this job/let you volunteer here. Also shame on you ma'am."
@stonefruit amen. Whenever I have a freak out that goes, "oh noooo, I am burning up my youth in a cubicle!!!" I look at a photo of burning man and go, "ahhhh yes...there are always worse fates." Then I affectionately pat my stapler and get back to my spreadsheets humming contentedly.
When a friend of ours had a baby we made them turkey meatloaf stuffed bell peppers, and they turned out great. Proportion wise, you could probably freeze them individually, and then heat up a few at a time, so that would be helpful. Packet of ground turkey, 2 eggs, scoop of oatmeal or breadcrumbs, splash of milk if you like it, salt and pepper, diced onions and anything else you like- I often put in roasted mushroom slices, scallions, and the tops of the bell peppers. Once you have your meat mixture you just shove it into a bell pepper that has the top removed and bake in the oven at 375 for a long time until its all cooked (40 minutes+?)you can get maybe 6 stuffed peppers with the meat mixture, if they aren't huge peppers, and you could always scale up to 9- 12 if you wanted to freeze a huge pile. One pepper by itself is a meal, but a half pepper plus sides also works well.
I really love my Joy of Cooking- I think it's the 8th edition? Not sure. Its great. I'm a good cook, so I tend to hit this up more for techniques or cooking times. Its jam packed with diagrams advice, recipes and info. I also have the Stonewall Kitchen Harvest, which gives me modern spins on all my old timey new england favorites, plus big inspiring pictures. I gave my mom the Smitten Kitchen Cookbook for christmas and it's been a big hit.
I recently bought my feller this shirt for a festival: Kittens!
@Megasus I like his books, and you know, he can do whatever, he's a wildly successful person with talent and it seems to be working....but he is absolutely too precious for words. Don't get me started on his wife either.
@Judith Slutler Sometimes a leg is just a leg (that looks like a hot dog).