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By Jolie Kerr on That Girl Is Poison: A Brief, Incomplete History of Female Poisoners

This is, like, what I want the internet to be like all the time.

Posted on December 16, 2014 at 8:11 pm 5

By bocadelperro on That Girl Is Poison: A Brief, Incomplete History of Female Poisoners

"After her second husband raped her, she put rat poison in his whiskey."
I'm a little ashamed to admit how widely I grinned when I read that.

Posted on December 16, 2014 at 3:42 pm 2

By Kate Harlin@facebook on Famous People It Took Me Way Too Long To Realize Are Not the Same Person

Matthew McConaughy and Woody Harrelson. True Detective is a nightmarish Carnival Mirror

Posted on November 24, 2014 at 6:34 pm 2

By AmandaElsewhere on Famous People It Took Me Way Too Long To Realize Are Not the Same Person

Amy Adams and Isla Fisher.

Posted on November 24, 2014 at 3:38 pm 1

By melis on Texts from Mallory Ortberg

"Don't cry for me. I'm already dead."

Posted on October 30, 2014 at 1:22 pm 2

By Mariajoseh on La Malinche, La Llorona, La Virgen: My Mother's Ghost Stories

This was great, The Hairpin's really good today!

But pleaseee, the typo in the title me está matando. Should be "Malinche" and, as someone said on Facebook, I think it should be "wera" and not "weta".

Posted on June 30, 2014 at 5:39 pm 1

By Charlsie Kate on Talking to Heather Doney and Rachel Coleman About Child Abuse, the Quiverfull Movement and Homeschooling Policy Reform

I work for SSA in disability, and homeschooling is an area that I find very concerning. The two scenarios are either 1. A parent claims they are disabled, and cannot work, however, they are homeschooling three kids. or 2. Parents claim their child is disabled because of social problems, low test scores, overactive imagination, and anxiety. The child has been homeschooled for many years, lives in rural nowhere, and has no contact with the outside world except church activities. Home schooling "records" from the local bible homeschool center document the claimant has an A average.

Does the fact you'd rather stay home and homeschool your kids mean you should get disability? If you are actually disabled, is it possible for you to adequately educate your children at home?
Does the fact that a child is possibily not actually receiving an education and is therefore behind her peers mean she is disabled?
These are things I think about.

Posted on March 6, 2014 at 2:49 pm 3

By TenyaLuna on "As if sex work is only work if it’s 'good' work, if we love to do it"

Pretty much, and I mean that as a former stripper/website model - it really isn't a long-term job, it is a job full of much worse feminist compromises than the other service sector work I do now (not considering plastic surgery for one thing!) - for all the "oh no strippers are so self-confident! you learn so much about different kinds of beauty working there!" I learned my managers were racist pricks that were happy to encourage unhealthy dieting and pocket money from working moms for made up offenses. Or to tell women with back or foot problems they'd be fired if they didn't wear the requisite 6" or higher heels. And I worked at a lot of different places. I don't think that if there had been sufficient economic opportunities for 19-year-olds far from home with unemployed live-in boyfriends I would have chosen it. At least for as long, at least putting up with the abuses of so many. And not to say other service jobs don't have lots of abuses, but is that really a good argument for defending the sex industry?

I think that in a world with sufficient opportunities, we'd probably still see burlesque or other displays of sensuality/sexuality that are not money making. It is not that I'm opposed to women being sexual in a public way, but I'm wary of insisting that there's no difference between the sex industry and any other industry, and that feminists should not criticize it or want to see it gone. And I have a feeling that positive changes are going to result in making it much less profitable, which is really something I'm okay with.

Posted on March 6, 2014 at 12:40 pm 3

By MILFofMagnesia on Talking to Heather Doney and Rachel Coleman About Child Abuse, the Quiverfull Movement and Homeschooling Policy Reform

Why do you assume the experience of school children is hazing and bullying? Was that your experience? It is not that of every child.
"My kids are 3-5 grade levels ahead in math, 6 -8 years ahead in reading, and you wouldn't believe their elocution skills. We do it all in 3 hours a day of 'work'. The rest of the time? Museums, Soccer with other kids (of all ages), Math Club, Science Team, Debate Team, camping, a state and national level traveling sports team, reading, chess, reading, and just flat out messing around " ---I call bullshit
Just pretending that this is in fact true, what protection do your kids have to make sure that you aren't being abusive and that you are teaching at the level you say you are- are there tests or work they need to submit, does someone come in and check on your kids? That is the point of the article

Posted on March 6, 2014 at 11:13 am 2

By MILFofMagnesia on Talking to Heather Doney and Rachel Coleman About Child Abuse, the Quiverfull Movement and Homeschooling Policy Reform

I totally agree with you about your views on homeschooling and I think what you are asking for is the absolute *minimum*.
What really bothers me is the views among the people fighting your efforts (I read quite a few of the links, etc) that "I was homeschooled and I'm fine, so what" or that "standardized tests are too harrrrd, so we shouldn't have to do them". I would point out to them: "we are not talking about YOU, stop being selfish, the idea is that some protection needs to be in place for the good of the *majority* of children". I notice that both extreme religious people as well as the liberal nouveau hippy granola types are both exactly alike in that they are totally inflexible and convinced that whatever they think is absolutely right and will not even listen to reason at times. Their political/cultural views are way more important than everyone else's it seems, and both sides seem to take pride in fighting the norm, to the point where the welfare of their children is just incidental.
Is your child too bright, or too slow for public school? Go to a Montessori school then. None in your area and you're convinced that you're such a great teacher for your kids? Then start one yourself, you know with all that hard stuff like filling out paperwork. Is public school low quality or exposing your kids to things you don't want them to see, then send them to a religious school. Why people think the solution is home schooling is beyond me. Even if you're some PhD being the best possible teacher in the entire world, your kids still need to have time outside your sphere, to play with other kids, to learn how to socialize. Like, day in day out, all day at school, not just occasional interaction with the neighbor kids. This is how kids develop.
My strong reaction comes from the fact that my family was very dysfunctional and the thought ever being home schooled and cooped up all day with my abusive mother makes me shudder. As it was,I was subjected to all sorts of very weird and cruel punishments when I brought home my report card, and for 'failing' impossible tasks (this was due to the fact that she had no idea, as is usual with abusive parents, of what is age appropriate. e.g., when you are 5 you shouldn't be expected to cook on stove, you can't innately learn how to ride a bike without training wheels in a cramped garage without someone showing you how, etc). My mother had a sort of limited education herself, so her teaching me would have resulted in me having much less of an education than I received in public school. The emotional and physical abuse that was passed over by my teachers and neighbors was due to the fact that for a lon time we were sort of isolated, not allowed to have people over to the home, always 'out of town', etc and mostly because we were upper middle class white liberal/moderates.
I also know that the isolation of our family caused me to not age appropriately, i.e., I was around adults all the time so I didn't know how to be a kid. I never played with toys until my younger sibling was born. Children need to have contact with kids their own age outside the family. For a mother to say that they can give their kid everything s/he needs socially is delusional.
Both the religious right and the hipster contingent have a frightening amount of mothers who decide that they can do and are experts on everything, from teaching to medicine (no vaccines, no antibiotics for ear infections, etc, wow). I just don't understand it. Other people's kids are everyone's business, if you see kids kept at home, please call child protective to investigate.

Posted on March 5, 2014 at 8:03 pm 3