I'm a pretty nice lady, most of the time...

By Fear Biter on The Rob Ford Pie

Usually I love these - and I realize this dude doesn't necessarily need/deserve anyone sticking up for him - but to be perfectly honest I could kiiiind have done without the bodysnarking.

Posted on November 15, 2013 at 2:18 pm 1

By petejayhawk on The Hairpin Travel Series, Part Two: "An Escape From Untenable Circumstances"

This essay does nothing to change my very strongly-held opinion that Maria is the best.

Posted on August 27, 2013 at 7:55 pm 3

By Emby on The Hairpin Travel Series, Part Two: "An Escape From Untenable Circumstances"

This is awesome and my life has been boring. These are the conclusions I have come to after reading this little sliver.

Posted on August 27, 2013 at 5:30 pm 1

By needsmoresalt on Saying Sorry Is a Pretty-Girl Trick

I'm so sick of people acting like shoplifting is fucking cool. I kind of hated this piece in general, but I really don't understand the need to admit to shoplifting like it's no big deal. If something doesn't belong to you, don't fucking take it. You're not settling some score or being anti-corporate. I know that's not the point of this piece, but I just hated the weird bragginess of her list of "bad" things. Also, it's a pretty girl trick, so the author's obvs super-hot, because she gets away with so much? Ugh.

Posted on August 20, 2013 at 2:24 pm 25

By lobsterhug on Friday Open Thread

And tipsy googling reveals that he is married! Crisis averted.

Posted on July 19, 2013 at 9:06 pm 3

By TATABox on Friday Open Thread

In case it wasn't clear, that was an invitation to trade clueless quotes!!

Posted on July 19, 2013 at 8:40 pm 1

By TATABox on Friday Open Thread

You're all virgins who can't drive.

Posted on July 19, 2013 at 8:39 pm 6

By Linette on Friday Open Thread

@Homestar Runner OH NO.

That sounds really rough. I think you did the right thing, though, and even if the first try was kind of stumbly, you will do better next time, and these guys were receptive, which is really great.

Maybe practice a bit in the mirror for the next time something like this happens? And then deep breath, rational argument time? And give yourself an out just in case the next group of guys are assholes. A nice firm way to remove yourself from a conversation you cannot possibly win.

I think it is very smart to make these arguments when and where you can. I will say that when you're upset may not be the best time? Maybe? Because then it feels accusatory, and few people on earth are receptive to that. But I've definitely had A Talk with a guy who hit on me every time I walked by him, and I was finally like, look, here's the deal. I'm sure you're trying to pay me a compliment, right? And he said yeah, of course. And I said, okay, then I think I should tell you that what you're doing is not actually complimentary, and let me explain why.

It can help to start out with, "I know your intentions are good, but YOU ARE DOING IT WRONG." That way at least they know you're not just yelling at them for funsies. You're assuming these are good people who want to do the right thing and aren't doing it because, and only because, they are unaware of what the right thing is.

You did good, you did so good. Do not be discouraged! Do it again!

Posted on July 19, 2013 at 6:22 pm 3

By Ellie on Friday Open Thread

@Homestar Runner I don't think that sounds like you handled it very badly much less "blew it." Maybe it was nonideal but most things in life are. It's clear that you caused those guys to think about the way they speak to women about their appearances and that they will be much more thoughtful about what they say the next time the opportunity arises.

Posted on July 19, 2013 at 6:05 pm 2

By somanyfeelings on Friday Open Thread

I made another account just to post this, because I am just dying to say it somewhere, but not really ready to not be anonymous yet...A, my boyfriend proposed last night. It was a modest, lovely proposal at our house, I'm embarrassed about how much I love the ring, and just so thrilled by the outpouring of love and support I've received from my family and friends about it. So, awesome. (And yet not, because I want to elope, my dad wants to walk me down the aisle.) B, I'm pregnant. This wasn't accidental by our part, I just didn't think it'd happen the first month. I haven't even told him that the test I took this morning was positive, and am overwhelmed by the knowledge that there are still so many things that can go wrong (unfortunately I know the stats on miscarriages), as well as the thought of how I will a) temporarily hide this from the people that want to celebrate my engagement with alcohol and b) avoid having people think this is the reason he proposed and c) when do I announce this to anyone and d) aghhhghgh e) etc f) etc g) etc. Overwhelmed. (And yes I will tell my partner I'm pregnant, but I'm waiting until I can tell him in person tonight.)

So in the span of 12 hours, I became engaged and found out I'm pregnant. What a fucking awesome two days this has been.

Ok. Had to say this to someone, even if only just the internet people.

Posted on July 19, 2013 at 5:39 pm 17