@evil melis Words have meanings, whether you want them to or not. Virgin is a word, with a lot of baggage attached to it that is ultimately restrictive to women (and to men to a degree) and by perpetuating the idea of virginity, and believing that it is something with value or as a very specific act is a HUGE PROBLEM.
@evil melis I can't tell if you're being sarcastic or not. I'm trying to say that she is a) putting vaginal penetration on a pedestal b) grossly misinformed about "bonding hormones" and c) continuing to adhere to the idea of virginity, which is an absurd concept in the first place, as if it will somehow protect her from struggles with relationships and sex in the future, which it will not. She is free to feel that vaginal penetration is more intimate and meaningful to her and that she is not comfortable with it right now, but attaching the 'virgin' label to it is problematic.
Continuing to uphold the idea that only p-in-v sex counts is not 'you doing you', it's reaffirming really damaging ideas about sexuality and is incredibly cissexist and heterocentric.