@maybe partying will help I'm coming out of lurkdom to say hi there, fellow apostate! (I feel like we had "makeover nights" at least every couple of months for our weekly youth group activity. You know, while the boys were out building houses or learning survival skills or whatever.)
Don't forget that sexual sin is The Sin Next To Murder. In Mormonism, you could set an orphanage on fire and it would still be a less serious sin than sucking a dick. Try telling that to a group of 12-year-old girls once a week for ten years and see how emotionally healthy their sex lives are.
I definitely read the headline wrong at first and thought we were talking about this guy: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=20G17K_0ghU
@whizz_dumb Fair enough, but I've tripped over my own floor too many times not to be bitter about it.
@Gertrude And raggedy-ass floorboards. It's some kind of epidemic in this city. Or maybe ... maybe I'm just too broke for un-busted hardwood?
@figwiggin Such a fascinating book, right? Have you gotten to the part about the Scandinavians freeze-drying you and shattering you into fertilizer? I kind of want that to happen when I die.
a ha ha ha HOW DID YOU KNOW EXACTLY WHAT MY APARTMENT IS LIKE.
You forgot to mention being surrounded by bars that have no name, only giant Old Style signs, but other than that, bingo.
@Bebe @everyone else thanks for hearing me out guys, and thanks for the advice. I feel a little better now. I'm still kind of down, but I know we can go forward if I play my cards right, and that's good to know.
@SarahP oh god, I know exactly what you mean re: "my problem was more due to feeling rejected than sexually dissatisfied." I feel like the scales are starting to tip that way for me too, come to think of it. Yes, this was borne of sexual dissatisfaction, but now that it's become a pattern I'm focusing on the pattern more than anything else.
Which is still stressful, but a different kind of stressful. How do I learn not to feel so rejected? Where's the middle ground?
@gimlet on the other hand, if this is the worst thing we have to worry about, we have it pretty good in the long run. Because the rest of the relationship is pretty damn great, but this just sits in a little corner of my brain and nags at me.
@Bebe man, you want to hear something really sad? He does that - he does the whole "not now, baby, but on Saturday definitely. Twice, even. It's going to be awesome." AND THEN HE DOESN'T FOLLOW THROUGH. He comes up with another excuse that day. Which just compounds the whole issue. That's a pretty bad sign, right? I don't even know. I feel like I'm gaslighting myself here.