For those of you who do want/are having kids...it's not like this for everyone! Truly, I have 2 kids (4 and almost 2) and the sleep deprivation is really really hard, but man, there is such great stuff involved! I think the thing that helped me was just getting on with my life as much as possible WITH the babies - wherever I went, they came too. If I wanted/needed a shower, they sat in a bouncy chair while I showered. If I wanted to go grab some coffee and sit in a public place, you know, with other humans, they came with me. All. the. time. We went for long walks, to the art museum, to people's houses. On plane trips. From the time they were like 6 weeks old. And the funny thing is, I think taking them everywhere helped them learned how to BE in the world and I think it's one of the reasons I kept a sense of feeling normal. Also, my husband and I started the habit of taking turns going out. One week, I'd go grab a drink with a friend, the next week, he'd go to a concert with a friend. It helped A LOT. Still does! Plus, the expansive love business is legit.