"Girl, are you the ancient Osiris, because here's a meat offering for you–" Bahahahaha, YES. Jia, you are fantastic.
On Ask Baba Yaga: There's Got to Be a Way to Exist Without Constantly Inflating and Deflating My Ego
This is beautiful and spot-on advice. I can relate to this letter writer and the answer is definitely to a) learn to laugh at yourself (i.e. give yourself a break and get some perspective) for self-obsessing and overanalyzing all your interactions and b) focus on other things, both within yourself and in the external world. Remember what you like about yourself and what good qualities and habits you want to cultivate regardless of how they impact how other people see you or whether they like you. And just do stuff out in the world - things you like and find interesting that you can do with other people, even things that are focused on helping others. I still struggle with all of this for sure, but it just helps to get out of your own head as much as you can.
OMG Taken and Love Actually crossover is everything I never knew I needed until now.
That was absurd and delightful, Jia. And somehow also really scary....
On “This book is a warning of how bad things can get for a single man looking for beautiful, feminine, sexy women"
Oh hey, it's almost like economic security and a social safety net give women a greater sense of confidence and sexual agency, and help keep them from feeling that they need to get a man to be secure and have value as human beings! Funny, that.
@kfizz Yeah, did not love that. Because we all know perky, attractive women can't possibly be serious people worth treating with respect rather than condescension? Come on, Hairpin, don't let stuff like that pass without comment. We can talk about enjoying whisk(e)y and engaging with traditionally male pastimes without taking jabs at other women. Let's not get into (even if only indirectly/in passing) this dynamic of "I'm gonna show what a cool girl I am by putting down other women who are more stereotypically feminine." I mean, maybe I'm reading too much into that or judging too harshly but that's really what it sounded like. I'd like to think that this site, its writers and commenters, are better than that.
I'm not even a gamer but I love this series SO MUCH.
Can I just say, Jia, how goddamn much I love that you tagged this post "2 Bill 2 Clinton"?
"It's a perfect storm of technology and hormones," says lawyer Lori Andrews, director of the Institute for Science, Law and Technology in Chicago. "Teen sexting is all a way of magnifying girls' fantasies of being a star of their own movies, and boys locked in a room bragging about sexual conquest."
No. No no no no no. Do NOT conflate boys taking pictures of themselves sexually assaulting a teenage girl and people passing those pictures around with "teen sexting." Do not say it's a "storm of technology and hormones", thereby disappearing the actual perpetrators making deliberate choices to assault and photograph someone and disseminate those photos. This phenomenon has absolutely nothing to do with teen girls wanting to star in their own movies, and to say it does is victim-blaming bullshit. This is part of the problem. It is not about sex, it is not about hormones or easy access to technology - it is about rape and rape culture. There is a reason the boys who assault these girls and the people who pass the photos around don't believe what they are doing is wrong, and it ain't hormones.
This is disgusting and hilarious. Well done!