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Jealousy Mutations and the 2.5 Days Game

1. At the end of this school term, I will be finishing my masters (yay!), and the long year of long distance relationship my boyfriend and I have soldiered through will be over (YAY!!). I'm moving to where a job opportunity brought him last year, and he is hard at work making sure I have a good life waiting for me there. We are so excited to enter this new chapter of our life together! READ MORE

Skinny-Dipping, S.O. Weight Gain, and Walk[ing] Away [From] Renee

1. I have an awesome, kick-ass group of friends. We've managed to stand the test of time from university through different careers, relationships, etc.  We've remained important and valued in each others' lives. Well, except for one friend. READ MORE

"Tens," Office Racism, and a Molehill

1. I'm seeking your advice regarding how to deal with words said in anger. During a fight, my boyfriend of nearly a year basically told me that his friends are "surprised" he's dating me, which I took to mean that they think he's traded down, that I'm uglier than he is. He then proceeded to say he can't help the fact that all of his exes are "tens" and that he was attracted to my non-physical qualities. READ MORE

Smoking Alternatives, Troubled Parents, and the Unappealing Business Trip

I have a work-related trip coming up that I'm just dreading, mainly because of the co-worker I'll be traveling with. She's extremely religious, so she doesn't drink, curse, or watch R-rated movies or TV, and just generally won't shut up/read social cues. We'll have to drive there together in one car, stay in the same hotel room, and there will be quite a bit of down time, when drinking or trashy TV would come in handy. READ MORE

On Adding or Keeping Distances

1. After relocating, I formed a pretty clingy friendship with a woman, June. In a typical day she will call me at least twice and text several times. We get along extremely well. She is funny and bright, if a little co-dependent. READ MORE

On Second Chances

I have a question. When does a guy merit a second chance, and under what circumstances?  READ MORE

Toxic Dating, "Abominable" Sisters, and the French Manicure

1. I moved back to my small hometown (which I hate) for a job (which I love). I don't have any friends here, and I have had a really hard time making them. I was miserable until I reconnected with this guy I knew in high school, unfortunately, I knew him as he was my ex-boyfriend's best friend. We started seeing each other, but we didn't want to be seen in public so it wouldn't get back to my ex before anything was serious. Anyway we have been seeing each other for about four months, and we spend every night together. I am so much happier, and I really love being around him, but I know he has lied to me, cheated on me, or at least tried to cheat on me. I saw in his Facebook messages (I know it's bad, but he gave me his password) that he was taking another girl on a date and was so nervous because she was so hot. I confronted him, he cried, and said he thought it was a date, but he got there he couldn't stop thinking about me. I found a very sexual exchange between him and another girl, and he tried to tell me it was a documentary for his class about how easy it is to hook-up on the internet. He expected me to believe that he had to type all that to film it. The last thing I found out was that he invited a girl over to his house while I was out of town. His messages joked that they were going to have sex. She came over, and he insists nothing happened. I believe that because their next messages were about why she just left and he was sorry.  READ MORE

Mini Ask a Lady: Teenage Tattoos

I'm about to turn 18 and want to get a tattoo of some writing on my shoulder. Should I? READ MORE

Face Moles, "Perfection," and Shifting Dynamics

SO, I have kind of an issue. I think I have a pretty decent face, well I've been told I have a pretty decent face, but I can't seem to keep a guy long enough to actually DO anything, if you know what I mean. I think its because of this super awkward mole I have, I don't want to say exactly where it is, so I'll leave that up to you to decide. But I think its really putting guys off. I mean I keep everything else in that general area pretty well kept, but its like the moment they see it they just lose all interest. I honestly don't know what to do about this mole. I don't really have the money to get rid right now, and I've tried covering it with makeup but that doesn't work, THEY STILL SEE IT. Do you have any advice on what I should do? Am I just dating the wrong guys, are there guys out there that won't mind my creepy mole??? READ MORE

Lingerers, Admirers, and Silent Girl

I'm writing on behalf of A Few Friends, as we're all dealing with this issue: our friend Asdf has been bringing her cousin Qwerty to hang out, and Qwerty takes a lot of energy to be around, to put it mildly. This person 1) only talks to the men in a group (she is straight) and barely makes eye contact with the women; 2) likes to start conversations about “that time I swear I almost turned a gay guy straight lol” and “that time in college I was topless lol” and will drop these subjects into the conversation regardless of the topic; 3) gets pissy when people (in particular, Asdf) don't pay full attention to her and then drives off drunk in a huff because “people were mean to [her],” leading Asdf to stay up all night worrying about her safety. READ MORE