I have a question. When does a guy merit a second chance, and under what circumstances?  READ MORE

1. I moved back to my small hometown (which I hate) for a job (which I love). I don't have any friends here, and I have had a really hard time making them. I was miserable until I reconnected with this guy I knew in high school, unfortunately, I knew him as he was my ex-boyfriend's best friend. We started seeing each other, but we didn't want to be seen in public so it wouldn't get back to my ex before anything was serious. Anyway we have been seeing each other for about four months, and we spend every night together. I am so much happier, and I really love being around him, but I know he has lied to me, cheated on me, or at least tried to cheat on me. I saw in his Facebook messages (I know it's bad, but he gave me his password) that he was taking another girl on a date and was so nervous because she was so hot. I confronted him, he cried, and said he thought it was a date, but he got there he couldn't stop thinking about me. I found a very sexual exchange between him and another girl, and he tried to tell me it was a documentary for his class about how easy it is to hook-up on the internet. He expected me to believe that he had to type all that to film it. The last thing I found out was that he invited a girl over to his house while I was out of town. His messages joked that they were going to have sex. She came over, and he insists nothing happened. I believe that because their next messages were about why she just left and he was sorry.  READ MORE

I'm about to turn 18 and want to get a tattoo of some writing on my shoulder. Should I? READ MORE

SO, I have kind of an issue. I think I have a pretty decent face, well I've been told I have a pretty decent face, but I can't seem to keep a guy long enough to actually DO anything, if you know what I mean. I think its because of this super awkward mole I have, I don't want to say exactly where it is, so I'll leave that up to you to decide. But I think its really putting guys off. I mean I keep everything else in that general area pretty well kept, but its like the moment they see it they just lose all interest. I honestly don't know what to do about this mole. I don't really have the money to get rid right now, and I've tried covering it with makeup but that doesn't work, THEY STILL SEE IT. Do you have any advice on what I should do? Am I just dating the wrong guys, are there guys out there that won't mind my creepy mole??? READ MORE

I'm writing on behalf of A Few Friends, as we're all dealing with this issue: our friend Asdf has been bringing her cousin Qwerty to hang out, and Qwerty takes a lot of energy to be around, to put it mildly. This person 1) only talks to the men in a group (she is straight) and barely makes eye contact with the women; 2) likes to start conversations about “that time I swear I almost turned a gay guy straight lol” and “that time in college I was topless lol” and will drop these subjects into the conversation regardless of the topic; 3) gets pissy when people (in particular, Asdf) don't pay full attention to her and then drives off drunk in a huff because “people were mean to [her],” leading Asdf to stay up all night worrying about her safety. READ MORE

I’m engaged to my best friend, a guy who’s always seemed perfect for me. However, during our time together (the better part of a decade) he went back to school. What seemed at the time like an investment in our future has turned into endless unemployment and a terrifying amount of debt. He will never pay it off. He’ll never be able to retire. And he’ll never be able to help support a family. READ MORE

Hey there, I've got a question. My long-term boyfriend and I are absolutely inseparable. We talk about anything and everything, and our communication is great. I'm a very, very sexual person and if something isn't right I'm not afraid to speak up. For the past few months I've had little to no oral sex because he just doesn't do it right. I've been trying to teach him for months. I've even demonstrated on him what I want him to do, to no avail. He just licks it. I've literally said ''Suck on the clitoris'' and he just makes a weird clicking noise, no saliva just dry lips. It makes me angry how bad he is, because it ISN'T hard to do. I've even asked his opinion on bringing a lady friend to the bedroom for an oral sex lesson, but he's not open to it. He's read online articles, watched pornos and everything else we can think of. But he still just isn't getting it! My patience is wearing thin, especially because I make sure that he is pleased. It's not that he's selfish, he *wants* to please me. He's just lacking in the skill department. Thoughts? Advice? READ MORE

So I know that as women our bodies are always changing, from puberty all the way to menopause with key stops at acne, slowing metabolism, pregnancy, etc., but a few of my friends and I have been experiencing something else that's odd. We're all in our mid-20s (I refuse to call 26 late-20s but I guess it's approaching it) and our periods have become ... slightly erratic. Not crazy, something's-wrong erratic, but some of us have been complaining that our periods aren't quite as dependable as they used to be. Some of us are on the pill, some aren't. I myself have started to notice that, while I used to wake up with my period on a Monday morning (I am one of the people on the pill), for the last couple of months it's been coming in the mid-afternoon, around 3 p.m. or so. One of my best friends has had her period move from a Tuesday afternoon to a Wednesday mid-morning, also on the pill. Both of us are single, so we're not freaking out that we're pregnant, but it's very odd. Another friend not on the pill has noticed the same thing. READ MORE

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My New Year's resolution! It's to start writing thank-you letters. I don't write thank-you letters because I am a terrible person. And when I think about how I don't write thank-you letters and how that makes me a terrible person, I get this crushing anxiety that totally dissuades me from actually doing anything to change it! (Crushing anxiety would probably be a bit of a melodramatic overstatement, but you know what I'm saying?) So! Do you know any tips for making writing thank-you notes easier/bearable/not just thank-you notes but Christmas cards! By next year, how can I become a person who sends out Christmas cards? I don't know where everybody lives! I don't know where anybody lives! Any suggestions for how I can stop having the worst etiquette? READ MORE