By annepersand on Our Bella, Ourselves

@lafleur LOL we both took the same "Stephenie Meyer is not smart enough for this" tack. Truuuue story.

Posted on November 16, 2011 at 12:39 pm 7

By annepersand on Our Bella, Ourselves

My issue with Twilight is not so much Bella's behavior as Edward's. Being in emotional thrall to a sexy jerk is an absolutely expected part of being a teenage girl - but that doesn't mean we have to treat the sexy jerk as some sort of idealized vision of manhood, like the books do. And I suppose you could make the argument that the book is tightly confined to Bella's viewpoint, so of course Edward is romanticized, since that's how she sees him. But we don't really get a trustworthy, contradictory outside perspective and to be honest I don't trust Stephenie Meyer enough as an author to believe that she's doing next-level things with unreliable narrators here (all you death-of-the-author people can scurry along).

Furthermore, we're never given a model for positive femininity that doesn't in some way uphold the conservative, creepy, wilting-damsel-wants-babies portrayal of Bella. We're meant to believe that Alice is an awesome character because she stans for Bella and Edward from the beginning, Rosalie's initially a bitch but it's okay in the end because the only reason she's awful is that she's upset that she never got babies, Esme is some sort of archetypical mother figure, and Bella's mother is given literally no character development beyond the fact that it is constantly emphasized that she cannot take care of herself.

In sum, I feel like interesting points are being made here about Bella as a character removed from the entire context of the rest of the series, but within that context, I just can't read her as anything but a Genuinely Bad Idea.

Posted on November 16, 2011 at 12:37 pm 14

By Ms. B@twitter on Our Bella, Ourselves

There are some good points here (nothing wrong with pregnancy being discussed more often in teen literature, for instance) -- but I feel a lot of your argument is undercut by the unhealthiness of Bella and Edward's relationship. You ask if we feminists are to determine if some desires are good or bad. I say: desire just IS, it's not bad or good -- but sometimes choosing to act on certain desires _is_ a bad thing. Bella's decision to stay with an emotionally (and sometimes physically) abusive stalker just because she desires him is, y'know, a bad decision. Worst of all, the book gives her no consequences for this decision; the violence of her pregnancy and birth has nothing to do with Edward's emotional abuse to her for the past three books. His behavior towards Bella is not even portrayed as abuse -- but it is.

I see your point, but I think there's too much missing in terms of follow-through consequences for this book to really be considered a good window into feminine issues.

Posted on November 16, 2011 at 12:28 pm 24

By Katie Heaney on Bella's Teachers Would Never Do That to Her

Oh for fuck's sake.

Posted on October 11, 2011 at 1:53 pm 10

By lafleur on Friday Bargain Bin: What to Do With Your Allowance This Week

YESSSS my Le Creuset color is Dijon, I needed some casseroley dishes anyway, and you just made my day!!

This is terrific.

Posted on August 5, 2011 at 11:36 am 2

By melis on Real Proposal Stories

Good thing he asked your dad though, it would have sucked if your dad said no and then you had to break up.

Posted on July 8, 2011 at 12:44 pm 29

By heb on Real Proposal Stories

"Things I Cried About Due To Break Up Hormones"

Posted on July 8, 2011 at 12:34 pm 19

By iceberg on Real Proposal Stories

Welll, I didn't really get a proposal as such because it was just sort of mutual and inevitable, but earlier on I got a text that said "You should note in with me".

Of course he meant "move in", hooray for predictive text and not proofreading!

Posted on July 8, 2011 at 12:08 pm 9

By becky@twitter on Is Your Lip Balm Ruining Your Life?

i apologize if i offend anyone, but if lip balm is your only vice, i think you need to take a serious look at your priorities.

Posted on June 28, 2011 at 10:08 am 12

By raised amongst catalogs on Menstrual Cups: Are They for You?

@Katie Ritter Oh, man, I am LOVING the marketing scheme at the Instead website. "Tampons were introduced in 1936. Our lives have changed since then—isn't it time our period protection did too?" I went into it thinking, "Oh, maybe Instead..." and came out of full of righteous indignation. "ISN'T IT TIME, INDEED!"

Posted on May 5, 2011 at 4:29 pm 8